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You meet someone for the first time, by just their presence gives you butter flies, so you think, this must be love. It's got to be something. You don't get this feeling from everyone you meet. You have that first date that goes incredible, you once again think, this must be love, how wonderful your date went. Now it's time to have sex, unless you did, big mistake! But that's another article. The sex is like fireworks, let me say it one more time. You think this must be love. It might be, I mean all these things are a plus, but what is love? Why do we so desperately want to be in love? Especially when we have had our hearts broken countless times? Is it that we are gluten for punishment, or could it be that falling in love, or being in love while it does last, feels absolutely amazing! As children we are programmed for the fairy tale ending, but at what point do we lose what is real love and just want the happy ending and sometimes even just settle. Real love is a base of compatibility, chemistry and communication but most of all respecting the person for who they are. I have worked in the fitness field for many years and I hear the women, as well as the men talk about love, and from what I see the two genders are not communicating, they are guessing. The result from guessing is a lot of broken hearts, and no happy endings. When we watch movies, we always hear that music that intensifies leading up to that big kiss scene. So are we waiting to hear that loud music go off in our heads, and when we don't, we think something must be wrong. Maybe this is not love? In life when we want a person, we chase after them; naturally they ran the other way, as if we were 5 years old playing tag. So maybe it's time to put away all those fairy tale books that were read to us. Put aside all those games we played as a child, and realize that we are all grown up, and there are new rules. No more games! Women, after watching a romantic flick with the big love scene, remember that's not reality. And men, all those women you see in magazines and movies that you think are so hot, news flash, not real. Air brush and a good makeup artist can do wonders. It's healthy to fantasize what you want. But when it comes to reality of a relationship, it's simple. Finding someone you might like is fairly easy. Finding the person to be with for the rest of your life is work. So, if you do find that person that is right for you, don't think there are trumpets or bells waiting to go off. Love is work, and you get what you put into it. If you are willing to give it your all, not for a day, month or even a year, but for the rest of your life, then that is love, and stop thinking there is something else out there, At some point you'll realize you have to do the work but it's worth it. What you get is that person that has your back that will always be there for you and that's a great feeling. Even better than the story that ends with the couple riding off in a pumpkin! Cause let’s face it that is not reality. xo Barb.