A very sensitive subject, but I'm hearing so frequently, and again today, I felt the need to write about it. There are times in a relationship that things have gone all wrong, it is at the end, it is just a matter of time before one picks up and leaves. Sad to say but you know it is going to happen, sometimes its mutual, which makes the split a whole lot easier. If you are prepared you can sometimes part, maybe... at least not as enemies. What about the couples where one is totally in the dark. They may know there are little problems, but nothing to say it is over, although that is exactly what happens. It is both men and woman doing it. A man working so hard to give his wife and family everything only to find she's having an affair and when she tells him, it is so nonchalant and says it with such little care. The person acts so done with the relationship as if their years of marriage and the children they had together, was something that happened. The love they have now found is just so much more rewarding; it is worth to throw away the years of memories. Also as well, is the woman that stays home with her two children, one still an toddler, just learning to talk, the precious years. Well, you would think...Nope only for her husband to come home and say I think I'm in love with another woman. While she is a loyal mom staying home taking care of her family, her husband is out without a thought of how he is hurting his family. So one husband and one wife, two different families, with one thing in common they are both being cheated on. With that, the people getting dumped or left didn't get the chance or choice in this life changing decision. Which seems so unfair? So that is life and we just have to....say okay...and move on. Even if two people are a couple, maybe living together, there are still terms of commitment unless you have an open relationship. If one wants to leave they go, it is just easier, because there is no binding contract. What is does leave each person being cheated on, or left, is with a broken heart. So we have all these broken hearts. Somehow, yes its life but still seems so unfair to the hurting person. So before you get to the point you are in another person’s arms or bed, think twice. Think of the person that you desperately wanted at one time. That they should without any doubt be owed the decency of being told, before you move on so casually. Leave them with just a little of their self-respect and not just a broken heart. To say you couldn't help it, you just fell in love and into the persons bed is bullshit. Keep you boxers, or panties on until you tell the person you are with that you are leaving. You might realize and you probably will that you made a big mistake and if you have a conscious, you'll one day wake up and realize you hurt someone that you cared about horribly. Do the right thing and be up front and honest. When you’re young in your teens and you cheat, you are still learning. As an adult you know better! XO Barbara Jeanne