When You Can't Seem to Keep the Connection With the One You're Crushing On

Why does someone you like say one thing but constantly do another. They say how much they like you but you don’t hear from them for days, sometimes longer. They tell you how much fun they have with you but they don’t put the effort to see you very often. They tell you how handsome or beautiful you are but they are still out there looking. I hear people tell me they went out on a great date with someone and they come home only to see them back on line. The problem is, this is not just occurring with people that are just dating this is also happening with people that are in a relationship with someone. They may not be going on line but they don’t put much of an effort into the relationship with you. This can be very hurtful. Leaving the one trying or wanting more wondering what’s going on. So I did some investigating and put it together with what I know and here is what I have found. If a person is digging you a lot but is lagging on seeing you, calling and texting you they are not ready for a relationship. They are not ready for the commitment they know it and figure why go there. When they do go too far and get to close, then they back it up so far you seem to be at square one leaving you thinking “what the f***”. So if this is the case you can either wait around hoping they will want a commitment somewhere down the line or get on the horse and start looking around for what’s out there. Do the same as well if you feel you are not what the person you are into is looking for, continue to look. Remember you are not plan B, or any plan besides being the one and only. The bottom line a good healthy relationship should start off effortless. If you are having troubles out of the gate know this is a red flag. Stop and think is it going to be worth heart ache and break up, because most that start like this ends this way. Look for the healthy person that is ready for a committed relationship completely. That is when you will love, or be a heck of a lot closer! Barbara Jeanne xo