Love Should Lift You, Not Make You Cry!

Love is so powerful it may be the only thing that can really change your emotions, ruin your day or make it brighter. It can control you, almost take you over. The only other thing that may do this is children, or a really bad job. Love is something that should bring you up, when you are feeling down. It is so powerful, it can make you smile, make your heart beat faster or even skip a beat. If these aren’t what you are getting from your love relationship, then take a step back and see why not. I am not saying you are supposed to never argue, never disagree, but as a whole it should be a positive situation in your life. If you aren't thinking this, next, say to yourself why? Ok, let me give you a few that are positive. Does your partner touch you and say I love you on a regular base. If you are in a new relationship, it should feel, like on unspoken word but not yet said. If it already has been said great but it is something that needs constant reinforcement, not like work by actions that you want to do. Sometimes you know it is love from the get go, just a feeling. Does your mate, think of things to make you smile, laugh, brighten your day. Do they answer when you call and are they glad to hear from you? Do they call, not text. Don't allow yourself to get into a texting relationship. Your lover, partner should want to hear your voice no matter how busy they may be, or how new the relationship is. It takes two seconds to call. What did they do before cells? Their butts found somehow to find a phone and to call you during the day. Now that it is easier than ever, people won't do it. It is almost like a child rebelling. When they should do something, then they won't. Anyway, back to the main subject. Do they want to spend time with you? Even if you are married, you should be spending quality time, even if it is ten, twenty minutes. Talk, ask each other, how are you, how was your day. Touch, hug, and kiss! Try to even get a quickie in. It is normal if you are not always in the mood, but you have to have the want to have sex, make love. If you don’t…ever, you are not heading in the right direction. So before it's too late remember. Try a little care and tenderness, each and every day. Relationships are hard to find. Good relationships are even harder to find. Either way it takes work. Some are easier than others. Remember also, you can go from one relationship to another until you realize, you will have to work out it. Love doesn’t make you hurt, doesn't make you sad and sure as hell doesn't make you cry because they broke your heart. Sometimes over and over, in that case LET IT GO and MOVE ON. Someone beautiful is waiting to love you! BARBARA JEANNE xo