Being Loved For Who You Are (Makes A Lasting Relationship)

When do you know you have found the right person? I probably would say when you can totally be yourself. Yes you want to look nice, be well mannered, but most important you want to be who you are. It is safe to say who you are with is the same person a week from now, who you will be a month from now, and so on. When you can laugh and enjoy the person and not think you have to put up a front, this is a good start. If you feel you have to say all these little lies, this is not good. You should be you, the person your family sees, your friends see. Now if you both can get in sync with this method, and you are accepting and liking each other for whom you are, thing are on the right path. A healthy relationship is a couple who can laugh, be goofy, and not judge one another. Chemistry and looks are important but it is how they make you feel that takes it over the top. You can have someone that is handsome or hot and it’s important but it’s even better that they are just as beautiful on the inside as well. You have to take time to get to know the real person and eventually you well and sometime it’s too late. You have fallen for a person who becomes someone that you did not meet but that is the chance you must take for love. Sorry to say more so if you are already married with kids. Take time and say to yourself, does this person make me feel comfortable, does this person seem like they truly care for me and last would this person be here by your side when you need, if the answer is yes, this is a great beginning and a person worth continuing a future with. If your answer is no, keep looking. Barbara Jeanne xo

Do We Know How To Be A Good Friend

When you call your friends, family or maybe just someone to talk, is it to see how they are doing? Or do you have a hidden agenda, which is to talk about you. Take time to see if you are doing this. When you call people take note, why are you callling them. Are you calling them because you have relationship troubles, a bad day or need to vent for some reason. Do you really want to know how they are doing. Truly concerned? Someone very wise once told me, people call to talk about themselves. Very rarely do they call to see how you are doing. Since then I've taken notice and he was absolutely right. So I make it a conscious effort to call to see how the people i call are doing. A relationship of any sort is give and take. Not take take take. Thats why so many people say it is so hard to find a good friend. Just a thought xo barb

A Song With Such A Powerful Message

Melissa Etheridge wrote a beautiful song in the 80's, and when I heard the words it amazed me. It is such a simple song with simple words, with such a powerful statement. If you don't like what you see, you don't have to look at me and basically if you do not like what you're hearing you don't have to listen. Why do so many people get involved in others people’s lives? Sometimes so much that the get consumed by another person. We need to concentrate what’s on our plate, what we have going on in our own lives. If you are hurting someone else, just because you're bugged because that person is simply doing their own thing, you need to see why? Leave the person be, you do your thing, let them be to do theirs. That is why we live in America; we have freedom of speech and expression. Unless it's truly hurting you physical just don't look. xo

GIVE AS MUCH AS YOU RECIEVE

 SO MANY OF US REACH OUT 2 FRIENDS 4 COMFORT & SUPPORT, BUT R U MAKING SURE THAT U R GIVING AS MUCH AS RECEVING. NOT 2 B BOLD, BUT I C SO MUCH SELFISHNESS. IF WE CAN NOT GIVE, HOW R WE SUPPOSE 2 MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP OF ANY SORT. WE NEED 2 LOOK AT OURSELVES & C. BEST WAY, EVERY NIGHT ASK YOURSELF HOW MUCH DID U GIVE & RECEIVE. C HOW BALANCED II IS