How to Get What You Want...

Somewhere over the rainbow...where dreams really do come true. Only if it was that easy to get what you always wanted. For some reason, when you like or feel we love a person, it almost becomes an overwheming feeling. That we not just want that person. If we don't get them, at times if seems we just can't go on. It hurts, we cry but we always make it to another day. Maybe  to feel the same hurt and sadness, but we always make it to another day. If we did believe without doubt, they say the chances of the thing we want has a better chance of coming true. Maybe it is, mayne not. If so, just let us say, if so. Would you believe without doubt, knowing you would receive what you wanted. I would. They say the chances that you will get what you want with a positve attitude and the drive is exceedingly higher. Not just with a person, but with anything you want. You don't have to put red sparkly shoes on and click them three times and repeat, there's not place like home. You just have to believe it is possible. Be positive and have trust in a higher power. xo Barbara Jeanne

Men, Ten Turn ons For Your Woman

1. Stay the person she met. When you want to conquer your woman, you are just short from being Superman. Meaning, there is almost nothing you can't or won't do. You can't seem to do enough.
2. Call, you have a phone. Texting is okay for a quick hi or to let her know you are thinking about her. You should want to hear your womans voice. It should be music to your ears, not something that is something that is too much of a bother.
3. Compliment your lady. Show her you take notice to what she is wearing, or doing, makes her not only feel appreciated, she will feel good about herself. Which gives her more confidence. She will be be a happier mate.
4. Dress to impress. You love when your lady dresses for you. Return the favor. Get dresssed taking your lady for dinner. If you want to get lucky, lose the old sweat pants with the whole in the crotch and the torn up tee shirt. Atleast for your get lucky nights.
5. Touch. Meaning, hug, kiss. Put your manly arm around her and tell her how much  you care and love her. Stimulating her during the day leads to more of those lucky nghts.
6. Help out. When you two were dating, you couldn't help enough. Now that you are together, you can watch her walk carrying the garbage, a tv, a matress on her own and not get up to help. You will be an unlucky man that night. 
7. Talk. Men are not big talker by nature. There are those who have that personality, but as a whole, men seem to talk less and less to the one laying next to them. If you keep the communications open and flowing, it leads to a better relationship.
8. Do what she likes. Woman suck it up, some of us and do what you men like. When woman put in their ideas, of what they want to do, men come up with excuse why they can't seem to make it. Do more for her, you will get more in return.
9. Be happy. Many times men get into relationships and then realize it is a commitment that they might not have been ready for and might feel miserable. Or search for another, thinking what else might be out there. Be happy with who you chose, make her feel happy and that is what you wll get in return.
10. Romance. Woman want to be wined and dined but more importantly, woman want to feel like they are loved, adored and wanted. If you do this for women you men will have more of those get lucky nights. So get out your good pajamas.                                                                       Every woman is different but all woman love to feel loved and most be in love. So I hope this lets you men have an idea what could be helpful. The best way is to find out is ask your lady. xo Barbara Jeanne

Your Style, That's You!

Everyone has there own style and that makes you unique. Some people are more flamboyant, others less reserved. Either way, how you act, how you dress that is you. Do not let someone change who you are. If you want a make over or to have someone help you change, that is one thing but if people around you are the ones not accepting you, then that is what you need to change. So many times in a relationship a person will meet someone and they loved the way they dressed, their out going personality. As the relationship grows. they want the person to change. It happened to me. I went to college in Boston, I am a Jersey girl and met a guy from Vermont. We fell in love and got married. He fell in love of my out going personality and my way of dressing. Once married, he didn't want me to wear make up and everything he bought me was stripes. Soon I thought I was in prison, thinking, this isn't what I'm used to. Next came the baby and a white picket fence. I'm older and can appreciate this, but tell that to someone with teen still attached to their age and it can be a bit depressing. So what ever your stle is that is what makes you stand alone. the little different quorks you have. That's your style that' you! XO BARBARA JEANNE

You Meet Someone You Like, They Disappear (Only to Come Back Around)

You meet someone and it either goes well or not, but for some reason, it doesn’t work out and you stop hearing from the person. Time goes by weeks, months hopefully not years and you hear from this person again. Throughout the years I have noticed this, but it even happened to me and it made me think. I didn't even know who the person was and frankly I don't think the caller knew too much about me; in fact I think it had to be more than a year that had passed. So, why do people come back out of the blue, with the " hey what's up, how you doing", truthfully I think people desperately don't want to be alone. They may think of memories with a person that may draw them back. Sometimes there wasn't much to hold on to but whoever they were with isn't working at the moment so why not give someone out of the blue a phone call, even if you don't really know them. I have to say this makes me laugh a bit. They person on the phone asked me if I was in a relationship and I had told them at the time I was engaged for a year. My mother even said she'd take a date with him, whoever the guy was had a good sense of humor and laughed. So guys may need a fill in, or maybe have nobody so are willing to give a girl a second chance. But I don't think we met is the funny part. Anyway, everyone is worth more than just being a fill in. Many times I feel guys are seeing someone but see another girl that may intrigue them and introduce themselves.  Although they seem to forget to say “I’m in a relationship but if we don't work out could I give you a call”. You seldom hear that. There is the situation where one of the two that made you two a couple that may have been unsure at the time of what they wanted and backed away. They may now find the timing is right and come back hoping maybe both people are ready. Other than that I feel if it didn't work out the first time, it is wise to say, there was a reason. Let it go. If you can't and for some reason have the need to try again, do so. Don't continue to try and try again, like a broken record. Don't waste time and energy on yesterday’s relationship because there is no one at the moment. Leave yourself open for the right person. It will give you a better opportunity to meet the right person! Barbara Jeanne xo

Signs of a Good Relationship

Believe it or not, their are some couples that are extremely happy. What makes a couple successful? If two people do not allow the stressful situations that can accure in their lives, to interfere with their relationship. It can be one of the important factors to remain a happy couple. Life brings its set of problems for everyone and it can kill a relationship.You have to have a good amount of fun and laughter. A good amount of love and honesty. Reason being, you want to be able to communicate with your partner without them being devensive. Trusting in what you have to say will benefit the two of you as a couple, not that you are trying to be hurtful. Romance and affection work hand in hand meaning, you can take someone to dinner but if there is no affection or connection, it will lead to a meaningless routine. Example, you need to do whatever it was that showed your affection towards your parner that made them fall for you. The important things is you need to do it with the same affection you did when you first met.  Although your relationship grows and changes, your affection should grow not deminish. So what are signs of a good relationship? When you feel lots of love and affection. Most of us don't really need to ask or wonder the signs. We know what is right or wrong and what is good and bad. XO Barbara Jeanne