Looking for Love Through Your Heart Not Your Eyes

 

Both genders tend to look for love through their eyes and not their heart. Although we always say I love you and we think it's from the heart, it all begins with our mind. This may be a big mistake because when you meet you don’t know anything about the one another. So what am I really trying to say? When you meet someone, your mind is saying, I want that person. You may go on a date, start to date, and see yourself fall a bit more. Especially us woman, we love the feeling of being in love. What about the idea of being loved. That is just important and two different things. Being in love, you think it's more of a mutual thing. Meaning that while you are planning your future with this person are you really paying attention to how you are being treated. Or is getting the person more important than how they may be treating you. Sometimes you are doing all the loving but are you being love the same way back. I see so many people running after the person they want. When you should be standing and waiting and seeing who could be right for you, to love you and show you what real love feels like. Real love feels like you don't have to worry that person will leave. They will be there to take care of you no matter what. You can laugh with them and feel comfortable with them and no matter what you do, you can do no wrong. No game, there is no, planning hard to get makes them want you more. There is no reason to have to impress them. So, you can have a relationship that start like fire, so hot and with passion but these are the ones that tend to fizzle. It might take 6 months a year. Maybe, get married and have kids and you sit there and think this is my life; this is how good as my life is going to get. All you get is resentment towards the other person, that snow balls into fights and probably now a days divorce. So what I'm trying to say is when you have to try to make someone fall for you, wait by the phone. When you are always putting them first and they are allowing it, it’s wrong. The relationship is all wrong. When they don't even think of you to bring you something you like. They should stop to give you, your favorite candy bar, ice cream. When you take or see picture are the two of you are you the leaning towards you. Taking picture do they want? This is a sign of lasting memories. Most of all, in your heart, do you feel it is right. Do you feel something is missing, because if you think something is missing? You are probably right and my advice is let it go and find the person that may not be perfect but adores the hell out of you. xo BARBARA JEANNE