No Commitment?

Women and men both know in a reasonable time what their intentions are with the person they are dating. I am not talking about the occasional date or when you are two are still seeing other people. I am talking about when you two are exclusive and it is now one on one, time as gone by and you know the others personality. People’s personality can always change, so you can never say you always know the person. Most people know how far they want the relationship to go. Maybe to the isle to get married, maybe you know you may want to move in but that is how far as it will go. Other people know that it is not for always and forever but it will last until something better comes along or it just comes to an end. Either way two people in the relationship have to be on the same page. You can't wait and hope that the outcome is what you are wishing for. It is better to get it on the table. If one wants to get married and the other feels that this is not the right person or may not be what the person wants then be up front and put it on the table. It will cut out a lot of heart ache and put the right people together. Instead of wasting a person’s time the two people should keep the communication open as their feelings may change. It is a hard thing to do to be up front and honest but in the long run it is the right thing. So if you are with someone that wants to commit and you know you don't shit or get off the pot. Don't drag someone into it because of your own uncertainty of what you want. They say being loved and in a relationship is the most rewarding thing in life, even more then having children. If you feel loved you are happier to spread the love. So take a moment and ask yourself do you feel so secure in your relationship do you think of the two of you love birds as we. If you aren't so sure have the talk and if the person you are with doesn't want to talk, it is not the best sign. If that is what they say, you reply "okay but if not today we need to disguise this soon and if they do not bring it up you can try again. If once again it is a no go then, sorry to say your relationship is probably not going to last the long haul. It is better to know then to wonder if you to will go the distance. So take time and think about your relationship, do you two as a couple consider one another as we. If not and you feel unsure or insecure you need to reexamine your relationship. Xo Barbara Jeanne