Love's Out There...How To Find It!

Between all the people that ask me to fix them up along with all the single people that I talk to, I know people desperately want to be in a relationship and in love. So if this is the case what’s making it so hard for two people to connect? Is it that we are selfish and unwilling to change our ways to accept another into our lives, or could it be that we expect people to like us for who we are and if not too bad. No, not really it’s too bad for you. You are the one sitting with a friend, alone somewhere or on line at home. Where you’re not… is in someone’s arms holding you. If being in a relationship and in love is what you really want why aren’t you there? This is something you need to ask yourself without putting blame on anyone else. I do believe it is hard to mate two people that will make it forever after, but there are many singles that could have more of an open mind to give another a chance. Yes you have to be physically attracted to this person you are dating, but did you ever think that their personality may make them look more appealing. The way they treat you could make you fall in love with them. A person that makes you laugh and that you can be yourself is someone that you should think twice about keeping around. Don’t judge so hard to the point that you are harsh, you would not like to be judged to the point someone else is picking you apart. No one would like to be thought of as not being good looking enough, thin enough, tall enough, you get my point. A person in love is willing to make their partner happy in doing so they may change something that may bother you. Here’s a quick story, in high school I dated a guy because he had beautiful blue eyes and was a lot of fun, but other than that he needed help. I started going out with him, not to change him but we girls always turn a guy into a bit of what we like. Anyway I cut his hair, took him shopping and he looked like a million bucks to the point that all my friends now thought he was hot. So take a chance on someone you might not. If your personalities click you may be able to take it to the next level. You have the choice to either be alone or open up your life to those that might open yours to love. Barbara Jeanne xo