The Scoop of What Men & Women Think About Casual Sex

It seems as I do my research people go through people on dating sites almost like a piece of chewing gum. People are treated like the kind of gum that loses the flavor real fast and thrown away for the next piece of gum. In some cases though it’s a yoyo affect guys and girls keep coming back around to the same person. This weekend always keeping my eyes and hears open to do my research. It couldn’t have gotten an easier. The person sitting next to me said he came to meet his ex-girlfriend that seemed to be on a date with another guy that was the first warning sign for me. As soon as the guy she invited came she said she was going for a cigarette and never came back. Leaving him to hang with my fiancé and myself I soon would be in a crazy conversation about dating, dating sites and getting and the importance of getting laid. It might be an ordinary conversation for someone a bit younger but not so much for a 36 year old man. He stated the girl that had just left him have been playing this game for 10 years. He didn’t want to date her just have occasional sex when she came over to hang or party. Next he went on stating he met the nicest girl on this dating site called Plenty of Fish. He then went on to say that he has seen this girl 15 times and have not had sex with her yet. There are ladies still out here and maybe he was lucky to have found one. He doubted that she like him because he said “women usually have sex after one or two meetings”. Although I knew this and have heard this so many times, it is sad to think this is what men think of women. Next he was talking about a girl he met in June that he has casual sex and was texting as we were speaking for a hook up. He was also texting another girl he had met and hooked up with July and also has casual sex with. I wasn’t digging the hooking up and casual sex. I was getting the sense that this guy at 36 was more about getting laid then meeting a girl to have a relationship with. He informed me that he would love to be with the girl that he just met with the 15 dates but how he really wanted to get laid. The only thing that was stranger was that these girls were his booty calls and he was not someone that I would waste any amount of time with. I’m sorry to say but I would rather get some much needed sleep then to be under, on top or anywhere near this guy. Not that I am insinuating anything remotely close to that. It sickens me that this is not the first time I’ve heard that sex is just sex and it’s all good. That booty calls are okay by both women and men of any and every age. It is very disturbing that a woman would allow a man to enter her, have sex something so intimate and have not intentions. Do we even think who they could have been with the night before? What ever happen to chivalry?  Not that every date has to lead to marriage but I thought that dating was to meet and see if you liked this person to hang out and maybe take it to the next level. If this isn’t the case we can just be up front and honest like this guy sitting in the next seat and say “I want to have sex and nothing more are you game”? This way you let the people that are just in it for sex take their ride and the people looking for a real relationship have a chance to find love. Everyone has to live their life the way that makes them happy. Do think twice before you make simple decisions because it makes who you are, who you become. Barbara Jeanne xo