Alimony?

When the marriage is over and you can't seem to move on or pull out of it seek help. I find after a man’s marriage ends he wants to find a woman and move on but somehow they rather stay in the single status and not get married, and then if destiny has it, the new man in her life will end up staying a permanent boyfriend. What puzzles me a bit is that woman wants to date, or be with a man even in a serious relationship, but all on the man’s dime. What does that mean, her money, is her money and the man still pays for everything. So what made me think about this today? Sitting at the bank an old friend pulled up next to me. Talking, she said she was cashing her alimony check, which is fine. That is her business. Then she proceeded to say that, her and her boyfriend of three years will not be getting married because she doesn't want to lose her alimony, she next proceeds to call him her wife, he cooks cleans and pays for everything. Why does she need to get married? She ended this part of the conversation, stating that her ex is still paying her insurance and cell phone. I guess what really bothered me is that she laughing that she was taking from both, that is just bad karma to me. I know a lot of woman say, men have been dogs for years or she is probably owed it. When you get married and have a child, we woman have the choice to stay home or work. We women are strong about this. If we don’t want to work, Nine out of ten we won't and get our way and stay home. So when it comes to alimony, I do believe in it, to help a woman survive, either with their children or alone. I do not feel that it is a man’s responsibility for the rest of their lives, nor do I think if a woman is living with someone and plays the no I don't game, it is wrong. If you happened to marry a bum or jerk, then I feel you should and do deserve alimony. If you cheat, come on. If it is equal decision, then it should be something mutual worked out together. My question is would you want to pay if it was the other way around. Yes, it may be this time and age. It might be the woman paying for the man. So either way woman or man, don't keep love it better than ever and the love of your life, your soul mate. To me that is worth more than money, more than gold. xo Barbara Jeanne