How To Know If They Want to Date or Want a Relationship?

I talk to people daily and some have the right idea about finding love. They get to know the persons mind. What kind of heart they have. But there is more than this to finding the right person and real love. So many times you can have a good guy or girl well it may seem this way, but you also may see red flags and you keep putting them on the back burner. The problem is that this person has so many red flags that all the burners are taking up. So here are a few ways to keep you on top of the game. And know you are not crazy; you have the right to think this person is not doing right by me. First off you have to realize dating and having a relationship are two different things. So if you meet in person or on line and start to talk and maybe go on a date, you still are on dating terms. They still don’t have to call you every day. But, if they send you a text, or you send a text their way, I firmly believe that it only take seconds to respond. So unless an emergency came up you should get a reply in a timely manner. If you feel in your gut things were going well and the slowed down or stopped then you should put this person on the back burner. Instead of pushing the matter, let it go and if it is right they will come back around. That should not mean that if they text you every once in a while you should be jumping up and down. It’s a text and you could be one of many. If you feel things are going well but they may not be ready to commit they may be a great person, even a great catch but not ready for a relationship will lead you to unhappy heart many or most of the times. So if you are just interested in casual dating than that is fine. You have to separate the two because dating and a relationship are two totally different things. Most of the times if things are right and you are the right person it starts right out of the gate. You are special to them from the get go. They need not look further. But if you have met one of the type of people that wants to feel the freshness of the excitement of the new relationship, the challenge, to conquer they will keep hurting you over and over. There is nothing you can say or do to get them off the cycle. They can either be addicted to looking for something else or may be addicted to the search. Either way if you are looking for a relationship they are not for you. Remember dating relationships are different so you have to know if you two are on the same page. How will you know? I do understand they can be telling you everything you want to hear, am I right? Well actions speaks louder than words so if they start acting flakey you know to move on and it will stop you from getting as hurt. Once you invested your heart then you are most likely to get hurt. So watch for signs that are matching to what they say. If their calling and texting gets less then you pretty much know where you stand because if it is right and they are ready they will be there for you front and center and you will know that this my dear, is the beginning of a relationship. Barbara Jeanne xo