Relationship Stale (Read Before You Bail)

So many times a relationship can go in the wrong direction. Leaving you to feel it may be time to call it quits. You no longer feel happy and the lust you once felt for your partner has turned stale with no emotion to even touch one another. Let alone not wanting to be intimate you’re not sure if you even love this person. So what do you do? Where do you go from here? If you are going to try and save this drowning relationship, you need to put the idea of leaving on the back burner. You also need to give it your all. So many articles might say go away, or have a night of passion. The only problem is that when that’s over your problems are still there. If you don't really like your spouse or partner how are you going to connect having sex, or fun on a romantic getaway. It will be pretty much useless. So where do you begin?  With the basics of where you started. Try starting from the beginning, is where you fell in love. Go back through pictures and video of you two in the past. If you are married watch your wedding video. See how the two of you use to interact. It will also give you a story of where was the beginning to how you got to this point. In the wedding video and pictures, are you leaning or wrapped into each other? Are the two of you looking at each other? It’s a good sign if you had a good base to begin with. Some people look back & realize that things were never as they should be; others realize when things went sour. That gives you the opportunity to figure out what and why things have changed for the worse. Start talking, get a pad and write down one by one why you feel like throwing in the towel. Take time to tell the other things they did that you miss or they don’t do any longer. Next touch, this is the fun part. You can begin to learn about your partner again. Where do they like to be touched, how do you like to be touched. Have fun, take turns touching, kissing and fondling. Once you spent the first time doing this. It is necessary to continue to have these sessions. More important those places that your lover has said they love to be touched...touch. Start doing those things that they said they like and miss. You are on a good way to a better relationship. So here is how you can start learning to love again. More important learn to have fun. Don’t be so serious. If you can follow these simple ideas, you have a better chance of keeping you relationship from sinking. Last of all, remember every relationship can suck; it is up to you to keep it going and alive. Oh, and it’s not greener on the other side. Think of how many people are looking on line. Put it this way everyone says it really sucks. SO STAY WHERE YOU ARE & TRY!!! Barbara Jeanne xo