Working Out a Marriage, Hell Yeah!

Living in a marriage that is barely existing, is no way to live. You have two choices, turn and walk away or stay and work it out. It is that easy to make that decision. Then, the rest is work, hard work. You might be saying there is too much pain and hate. If you love each other to the point you married the person, there had to be enough love to fuel the decision to think you could be together for the rest of your life. First you got to realize every relationship is the hardest job you"ll every have to do. They say loving is so easy when it comes to loving you. That is in movies, songs and poems. Real lifetime love is hard. It is giving, forgiving and saying your sorry. No winning the battle, being big enough to not have to win anything but the persons heart.  So instead of adding fuel to the fire...STOP...don't keep hurting one another. You get used to hurting each other. Until it becomes and everyday pattern that you can't control and it becomes a habit like a disease, the only thing is that this disease has a cure. It is the want to heal and become that couple you once were. You can go from person to person, finding something wrong with each person. I havn't found any relationship even the great ones that after time is complete smooth sailing. Every couples have their ups and downs. You have to have the want to make it work. You have to have rock steady in your mind, that there is no other option and the only option is to make it work. We as a nation need to learn to be dedicated to the person we say " I do " to. We give up too easy. As if we were going out with the person. We as a nation are waiting to long, or not wanting to get married because we are scare with the divorce rate so high. We have got to stop just giving up and calling it a day as easy as it is to change our mind. Marriage is major and can be a beautiful lifetime experience if we allow it to be. We need to step back and realize we can make it work...with work. Especially if you have children. It is no longer just your life anymore. It really sucks out their in the single world. People might look like they are having a ball being single but everyone and I mean everyone wants to find true love, real love...don't you? XO Barbara Jeanne