YOU GOT MR, OR MS. RIGHT, NOW HOW TO KEEP THEM

Keeping Mr. or Ms. Right is way easier then we make it. Meaning we are the ones that make the relationship so hard. How do we do that, we just become so overly negative about everything your partner does. We has a population are miserable, so we take everything out on the closest person. Who...the person we say I love to everyday. We hurt their feelings. We beat their feelings up until they are just existing in the relationship. You are sitting there wondering what went wrong. It is both of you. Then you both need to sit and stop hurting one another, take time to see where and what happened that your love union turned into a battlefield. Usually though, in my time of searching, reseaching and helping couples, it is one that starts this behavior and one is always a bit more brutal. You both have you jabs at making the other one bend over in pain from the hurtful words you have said. This is what makes one another want to throw in the towel and it is what breaks up of two people that once thought that they could never live without one another. Especially if you took the walk down the aisle. You should want that always and forever with that person. You add children on top of that.... come on, stop being selfish and sit down act like adults... suck it up and do it not only for the children but for yourself. What is you need to do, first off, if you are at the point were you barely speak, you should both say you are sorry. One has to be the bigger person. So whoever is reading this, you will probally have to be the one that bends. So sit with your partner and say those three little words that are truly one of the three of the biggest words you can say..."I am sorry"...very powerful word. Say it from your heart. Next talk out why you feel the way you do and hopefully your relationship is worth saving. Listen to what you partner has to say, even if you do not want to hear it. Last of all, ask each other ways that will make them heal from the horrible things that you both have said to each other and start mending your ways. If you are just starting off a relationship, and you are up to "I love you", here is how to keep it loving and intact. Be kind, considerate, caring, humble, loving, happy, fun and the list goes on. Anything that is positive, that is how you should be treating the person you are saying "I love you" to.. What are you doing you are teaching the person how you treat them and they will mirror your ways back. You will not accept anything less. The thing is that you may have problems and arguments, but you will have a great base and that is what is most important. If you have a strong base, then you can and will get through anything. You can't be mean and mad and expect your partner to want to hang around to be beat up even more. All they do, is dislike you. They may stay around because of the kids but you will feel as if they are vacant. Just existing in the home. That is no way to live. Before it gets to that point try my tips. If it has gotten to that point, try my tips. Either way, you may be sitting there and be thinking that you are to bitter to want to try, it's your call all I can do is put it out there. It never hurts to try, or to late to humble yourself to be a better person, to save your relationship. Good Luck! XO Barbara Jeanne