It Ain't Nutin But A Relationship? (Published Article)

People today are nonchalant about being in a relationship and what the definition really means. Well here is what it said when I looked it up... The fact of being related, connection, involvement. Lastly, a relation between two entities which is mutually beneficial for the participants of the relationship. This means that boths parties in the relationship should benefit equally as one another. It should be that thess two entities need each other to survive and prosper.  It may also be a relationship where it is a zeros sum relationship, where one player clearly benefits from the other (typically consumes the other). The other is taking all their time to figure out, why they are doing all the giving and their partner is doing all the taking. So maybe that is the big problem that is going on. What I see and hear from almost every relationship, their is the person that is the giver and the person that is a taker. A relationship has to be mutually. At one time one might be stronger and do the giving and the weaker do the taking. You cannot survive one person be selfish enough to take, take, take with no giving. The person giving, gets so used to giving they start to become the caretakers in each relationship they get into and that is not healthy. Mentally or physically this can make you sick. In order for a relationship to survive happily forever it has to be mutual. Work as a team. When one is down, the other is their to pick them up and do what needs to get done. Vise versa! If you are not ready for the commitment of these terms, you shouldn't put the pressure on you or the hurt you may cause someone else, when you can't deliver what the terms of a relationship should be. If this is the case keep your relationships short term. If you are not ready, you might be better off. The survival of a long term relationship would be at risk if it meant that the other person may not survive. Keep it to casual dating, until you are ready to give. XO Barbara Jeanne