Emotional Infidelity in Relationships (In Person Or On Line)

Emotional infidelity occurs when you or your partner become emotionally connected with someone outside of your relationship, either in person or on the Internet. But how dangerous to a marriage or committed relationship is emotional infidelity?

One way of looking at emotional infidelity is that it is very dangerous, because it not only takes away time and energy from the marriage, but it can lead to sexual infidelity and possibly to the end of marriage.

Another way of looking at it is that it is a symptom of problems that already exist within a marriage. My experience with the couples that I work with is that, when the primary relationship is not emotionally and physically intimate, each person may be vulnerable to a form of infidelity—either emotional and/or physical. Rather than blaming the affair on the problems, why not address the real problem?

Emotional affairs are compelling because it is so easy to be close with someone with whom you have no shared responsibility—no money issues, no children, no chores. It is easy to share your deepest feelings with someone with whom you have no conflict. It is easy to get the good feelings you get when someone who doesn't live with you and doesn't see all your issues thinks you are wonderful. But it is a cop-out—an easy way out of dealing with the real issues at hand. And if this affair does lead to a break up of your marriage and into a new permanent relationship, the chances are you will end up with the same problems! So why waste your time? Why not deal with the problems now?

The primary problem that leads to emotional infidelity is emotional distance between partners. While emotional infidelity is a symptom of emotional distance within the primary relationship, the emotional distance is also a symptom of the deeper issues within the relationship. It needs to be addressed. It will be hard knowing you have to let go of this new relationship that you have made but it is necessary to see if you can save what you have, especially it is a family.

You have to remember it is easy to have any relationship with no outside worries. Don't let a relationship like this fool you into throwing away the real deal You can go into any relationship and somewhere down the line, you will have problems, doubts and troubles. Their is no relationship that is trouble free for a lifetime and if you do have this, you have something very special.

We are given too many options today and it is getting in the way of having a wholesome old fashion relationship. The kind that lasts a lifetime. We need to get this back...How? Morals, you do remember them...