Believe...In Love

Believe in yourself and everything else will follow. Everyone has to love something. The love of your partner. The love of your children, or both. The love of your job or maybe even the love of food. People must love something to strive in life. The sad part is the more I talk with people and continue counseling, the more i am hearing, O I LOVE THIS, more than I am hearing I LOVE YOU! Something tells me something is going terribly wrong. I seem to see more tempory love, then the always and forever love. This love seems to be becoming a thing of the past. So what might be going wrong? Maybe we are not going for the right person. I met a 59 year old man that told me he wants to find love, but he likes young woman in their thirties. He went on to tell me that he met the woman after years of raising hes chidren alone. He dated the woman for a short period of time and married her, three months later he divorced. Why, she was still in the staying up all night, having fun stage. The surprising part is the last part of the story was his children were just a few years younger then her. So what am I saying? Go for what is good for you. Don't go for now, go for the now and later. Ladies, stop going for the bad boys. That is what they are bad, and bad for a relationship. Men, stop looking for the perfect woman, look in the mirror do you truthfully see perfection. The whole point is to find someone that is compatible. That means, being on the same page and direction but more importantly fufilling your partners needs. For example, you partner may like to play golf alone and you may love to play tennis, but somewhere during the day you need to take time to fufill you mates needs. It could be having dinner together. Taking time to talk, or a simple quick hug and kiss. To let them know you want to show them attention. Remember, if you don't water your plant it dies. That goes the same for love, if you don't cherish it, the love will die. My guess, this has happened to many of us before, and if you don't want to change, it will continue. So why not give somone you wouldn't a chance, they might adore you and you may find that is exactly what you need. More so you might find that you learn to adore them for treating you so beautifully, that bings true love. Now, when you do find someone that you do love, don't find excuses not to be with the person. Either because you dont want to settle down, what to keep looking for the next better thing and most of all you are too selfish. So once again, I am hearing people telling me, how much they want to find true love. If that is what you are truly looking for then, look for someone looking for the same thing, period. Don't date someone hoping they will fall in love with you. People are who they are. Don't expect to change them. People waste precious time. Sometimes even leading into marriage and children. Children are always a blessing but if it is wrong, give it your all, then LET IT GO! If you are not married, why are you even staying, being miserable. Now if you look in the right direction you will find love. Believe in love...IT DOES EXSIST! XO BARBARA JEANNE