What Men & Women Want (In Their Words)

When people are looking for a partner, then have so many demands they tell me. So I am here to tell you what I have heard, from both the men and the woman. First off, what men said? A lot of the women they date are crazy. That was the number one complaint. They may seem normal at first they said, but either from their first date or as time went by they wanted to get out and quick. Second, men dating and in relationships both say this one...that women are controlling, nag and they don't want to be with a person like this, not for the long haul. Don't have fun with the person. If you stayed married just for the sake of the children is not only hurting the children but yourself. Believe it or not, most of the men that said anything about a woman’s appearance were men on dating sites. After they have been on the sites for a bit, they even tend to change their tune and just want a normal woman. A woman to have fun with laugh with just be a nice girl. Have a good conversation with a woman and most of all, they do want long term, but they say woman that have been married getting alimony, don't want to give it up. Last of all men want a woman that doesn't put them down, they want a best friend. So ladies, let’s go over quickly, would you want someone that was trying to tell you what to do, when to do it. Nagging at you, do this, does that. Wouldn't you want to bail after a while? They like a woman that takes care of themselves but that was not the most important thing. The most important thing was they did not want to be bitched at. Men, your turn, woman feel that you are not who they met, in the beginning you would call them all the time and make them feel like they are a priority. As time goes by, you get lazy in almost every department, especially in the bedroom. You make excuses, like if we woman believe them, woman don't fall for all your short comings. If you were more attentive you wouldn't lose your woman to your best friend or another man that is making your woman feel alive and beautiful. Take time men, to put your arms around your woman to let her know you care. Touch her softly, kiss her passionately or gentle, but kiss! Don't take her for granted, if you do she will go away leaving you wondering what did you do. That is the bigger problem; you really don't know what you did wrong so i am telling you. Get your act together and treat your lady like a woman and she will stay by your side. Last, there are the people, both men and woman that do everything right, you just got a boo bee prize. You got someone that is selfish and really doesn't give a crap, about you or much more than them. So if this is the case, and they won't change...LET IT GO!  This does not just go for men and woman but for every relationship with two people. The bottom line you got to be fun and loving at least sometimes. Who would want to be with someone that is miserable all the time? That might be your own issue. Either way if you are in a relationship and this is the cases get help and tell your mate. Ending with you want to keep everything in the relationship a bit spicy, fun and lots of love going on both ways. BARBARA JEANNE xo