Here Is What I Learned, Guys & Girls... It Might Help

For the last two weeks, I have been doing major research. I wanted to see what is going on with people... couples, in there mind, hearts and what they want. I was searching what people are looking for in a woman, man, relationship or not. What people are desperately seeking. So I went to malls, restaurants, stores and of course the gym...anywhere people might be. In fact, I picked a few different departments purposely and I am bringing to you what I have learned. First I hit a couple restaurant and bars, and it seems that woman are still looking for that guy that is good looking and has money but more woman said they wanted a guy that treated her to breakfast in bed. Brought her flowers and was romantic. Yes chemistry is still on the top, it seemed to be what was most important. Next was sex...the sex had to be good. The guy doesn't have to be big, just work what what he has very well. Being small wasn't a plus... although... if they could go down on a woman and they are good at doing that then, they could work with that. Next, woman that are just dating are taking better care of themselves. They are wearing younger looking clothes, tight fitting and more stylish. Women with children came in more disheveled, not caring what they were wearing, most of the time blaming it on the children, stating they had no time for themselves. That may be the case, if it is you need to rearrange you time just a tad, so you too could take a few minutes to fix yourself up. Okay, you may say I'm crazy, but it is easy, you have to wear pajamas for bed, why not choice to wear a night gown, sweet, soft, comfy, yet sexy to bed. This is something you can throw on every night. You have to put on something. It's a quick change, wash yourself up and thrown on that little night gown and when you are frisky leave off the panties. So you have your children time but you can still go to bed looking pretty. You might not have sex every night but you honey will love that you do this. I am not say lingerie. I am saying either a pretty long or short night gown. Even cute pajamas will do. Take time to be you, the person they married. When you lose sights of the people you were before you got married that could be when trouble sets in. It is a bit harder with children, but I was taught always take care of yourself. Of course if you have a new born that is a completely a different story. You have to get dressed each day. So why not put something on that is comfy and cute. That should not only be important to your man, it will make you feel better with yourself... to take care of yourself and maybe lose those extra pounds. Which in the long run, will make you happier. I am not saying anyone needs to be skinny and a size zero, but be you. Don't lose sights on who you are. When you do this many women become unhappy. Then they begin to search for the old them being unable the become depressed. Stay focus on a piece of you. By getting yourself fixed up, you will be doing this. Let's go to men, what do men want...what are men seeking... a best friend. That the woman they met keeps the same personality. They like when you take time to take care of yourself, in their mind, they think it is for them. Because, when you two were dating, it was for them. They don't want to hang out with the guys like we might think. Men would rather have the companion of a female. They just want one that they have fun with and doesn't have major mood swings or changes personalities every five minutes. Men aren't looking for the perfect body, although they like a women that does take care of themselves. Top two for men, they want a woman that can hang like their best friend and chemistry. Men think of sex sex sex, only in the conquer stage. Once that is established, they think more about their work and what they have to do, then you. Not like you are the last, no they are the hunters, so they think of the things they have to do to support their nest. Men do love to be in love, just as much as women do. The only difference is that men would rather say alone nine out of ten, then to be with the wrong person. Men tend to avoid contact again, even if that means blowing off the woman and not calling her. Then to confront her to hurt her feelings or have any controversy. Woman will go into and stay in a bad relationship feeling stuck, like they cannot leave... where would they go? The answer would be anywhere then to be with a man that is not treating you right. Either way men and women are looking for love. Woman are looking for their night and shining amour and men are looking for their damsel in distress. The hard part is putting the two right people together, but that will be another story....xo Barbara Jeanne