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We Lost the Way to Find Real Love, True Love (Let me Refresh Your Memory)

         Many people today are using these social sites to actually socialize. Such as Facebook, Plenty of Fish, E Harmony, and the list goes on and on it seems in these days. There are so many sites from religion, to race to age, and type of education. Hum, that is quite crazy because people are trying just about everything, going outside of their box. It seems to be entertaining people so much. Almost to the point that people are staying in and having an intimate evening with their laptop and whoever is on the other side than to actually getting out and going an actual dates. So what do I mean, well people have their simulating conversations online, then they basically take care of themselves sexually that they don’t need to leave the house at all. Disagree? I was in a relationship with a guy as such so I decided to see was I alone or do many people do this and I wasn’t alone. Many people actually do this. And they either masturbate to the person that they think they are talking to on the other side of the computer or they have their porn site waiting to please. The good thing for them is they don’t have to go out and meet anyone and they can be whoever they want to be online. The bad thing is that computers are really stifling the reality of who you really are. As well as truly meeting people and making relationships become a reality. The worse part for the people that want to meet the person they are talking to. And the person on the other side has no intentions for one reason or another. You are wasting the person precious time. Also, if you do meet the person and don’t decide they are not for you, tell them. Although you don’t really owe them an explanation, it might be the kind thing to do. You don’t have to make it formal, just send a simple text saying, it was nice meeting you but I going to keep on looking. People are so chicken shit that they just disappear but the funny and stupid part of it is that you hear from the person when they realize that nothing is out there. And they start writing, texting or calling you again. Is it that there nothing, or nobody out there? Or are people just acting like they could care less that people go around in a circle and still come up empty handed, even going back to the same person. Exactly they are the same person that you really didn’t like, so why go back? Stop!  We need to find a better quality of a person as well as we need to be a better quality of a person. We have become selfish, lazy, and is this is what our children are seeing, hum, that’s not good. What we need to do is bring back morals, bring back unselfishness, loving, caring….come on we know the things that we need for a healthy relationship and if you don’t, well you need to learn. We are meant to love, we are meant to be loved. It helps of flourish in our everyday lives and it does complete us. Some people say we should be complete by ourselves. Of course we should and if you are content that way so be it. But for those that are hopeless romantics like me that want to be in love, live to be in love, then we need to work on ourselves to be wanted. As I said before the want is so very important. If you don’t know how to create the want, follow along as I say it over and over and you will eventually get it. You will live it and YOU WILL FIND LOVE! Barbara Jeanne xo


Finding Love & Holding Onto It (A Relationship Coach May Be the Cure)

      Every day I get mail stating that they are not able to find love. And when they do find love it seems very short lived. Something is going wrong, but what could it be? Is it the fact that men have treated women horribly for the last few decades and now they are giving guys a taste of their own medicine? Or could it be that both women and men are both selfish and it is very hard to give them for a period of time? I believe it is leaving both genders a bit confused. So is it possible to get on the same page to get to the always and forever? I am not sure if we messed ourselves up so badly that a healthy relationship is no longer a possibility. Well that I do not believe. I do believe many people need a relationship coach to be frank and honest with them to get you on the right track to finding true love. I see many relationships that shouldn’t be. There is no connection and frankly I see no want for at least one or both to even be together. So why stay? Because of comfort or maybe you don’t want to risk of the unknown? You would have to now go out and start the process of looking for love all over. So there we sit unhappy. My goal is to teach people how to find love, how to know when it’s wrong and when to let it go. To also know when indeed it is right. And most importantly if there is something you may be doing wrong or something you can do to boost it along in the right direction. I will be you relationship guide. And if you may need this help, please get a hold of me and look for my book. It will make you understand just about everything about love. Barbara Jeanne xo


Meeting On Line Is The Easiest Way (Why You should Wait to Have Sex) To Make It To A Successful Relationship

      All these different sites give people easy access to meeting. Two people that were strangers that never met before somehow seem to become friends. These two people become very close, flirting up a storm, swapping pictures. The funny thing is that women tend to send sexy pictures of themselves more so than men. Go figure. The next thing they find themselves on their very first date. Sometimes I am hearing they don’t even make a date, just a hook up. Come on…can you say “that is yucky”! Feeling as they know each other so well they find themselves in bed. This is the biggest mistake you can make. Yes there has been incidents were it works out for two people. But the joke stays for the woman “I got you in bed the very first night”. That really is not such a funny joke if you think about it. But many and for the most part it doesn’t work out. Why? Because you truly didn’t know each other to give such a precious gift, or have sex. This should be done when two people care for one another. Not waiting for one reason or another leaves especially the woman a little sad and invaded once she knows that he may not call, or their friendship is slowly coming to an end. You might hear from again when they have nothing to do. Maybe you will get a booty call. But know both women and men are both doing this. And the worse part they don’t give a crap…wait…unless they did like the guy. Then the woman is miserable. We need to slow it down and learn to remember to act like ladies and gentlemen. The flirting and the meeting is the fun part. When you do meet and connect that is the second step to realize that you two might have something together. To be able to touch and hold hands and grown into fondling is such a rush. To put these borders up for men they actually like it. For those that say we are all grown up, well that is all great and dandy but that doesn’t mean you have to take it fast. For when you take it slow and grow closer and to make the man anticipate having you, it’s a rush. It actually drives a man crazy to know that he will finally have you soon. So take it slow and let it grow, only when you two are in committed relationship ladies do you open those legs, or men pull down your pants. And it will be worth the wait because you two will feel the closeness and it will mean something. Like making love…or close to it. It does sound better than having sex, fucking or banging. By waiting what you may have is the start of a relationship. Barbara Jeanne xo


Behavior Keeps Your Man or Woman Staying & Keeping the Relationship Alive! (Article 2)

      Today men and women are having a tough time connecting. We all seem to think we are doing fine when we are hiding behind the computer talking up a storm. We might be thinking, I might have found the love of my life, but many times once the meeting does come, if it ever does the relationship seems to fizzle and quickly. Next we have the situation of meeting the person the old fashion way face to face. We might see what we like, and what we want but when it comes to actually liking them when we get to know, the relationship fades fast as it began. Last but not least we have the relationship that makes it to the point that you can call yourself a couple. But that soon seems to have troubles for many. Many I said, not for all. But enough to keep my business booming and to keep my email filled with people hoping to make their relationship to work with this person they gave their heart to. I’m not saying that I don’t love to help those that are looking or in need, because I truly do. But my question is why there is an overabundance of troubled couples that are in relationships. As well as an overabundance of people looking to be in love and not founding it or so they think. Not just not finding it but can’t seem to find a single person that is quite right. And lastly, the people that don’t know what the heck is going on in their relationship, because they don’t know or their partner doesn’t know what they want. But they feel in their gut something is just not right. The bottom line until we learn how to have a relationship and a healthy one we will continue to have broken hearts, unhappy couples and many single people wondering around in every direction for love. So what can be going wrong? Could it be the way we handle ourselves in a relationship. Some too clingy, too needy, others act as they don’t give a crap if this relationship works out or not. Many people go into a relationship just so they aren’t single but know they don’t love this person, at least not the way they should love a person in a healthy relationship. If we do find someone that we may say “yeah I might be able to achieve a good relationship with this one…this might just be the one, somehow we can’t seem to pull it off. We stay when there are red flags all over. We stay when we know we should walk out but it gets to be too late and now emotions and feelings come into play. Or we just don’t really give a damn so we treat the person like crap. But why are people starting out gong hoe but lose interest so quickly because you first off need to keep the want there by both parties and you have to see if you two mesh well as a couple. Are you two compatible? If you aren’t then somewhere down the line you are going to start annoying one another and this is the beginning to the end. You shouldn’t lose who you are, have to change for the person to accept you and you definitely should not bow down and lose your identity to speak and be you. By all means you have to be yourself but we aren’t learning to be good partners many times and this is the problem. To know how to fulfill your partners needs and wants emotionally, physically and mentally. Some of us act a fool, not knowing how to keep your man or woman and then boo hoo when they are gone and you are alone. You have to be the woman, the woman that knows how to conduct herself to keep that man. And if you didn’t learn at home then in my series I will be teaching you. You need to be a lady, but that can have kick ass fun and tend to her house and her man. Now a man needs to be a gentleman. A gentleman that can make his woman smile before he even touches he body. Remember the way to a woman’s heart is to simulate her mind with romance, truth and love. But make sure you are there for the long haul and not be a phony by saying these words to get some ass. If you do this you are just an asshole. And woman don’t play the I would do anything for you until you got your man hooked and then you do a 180 and leave him saying this isn’t the girl I met. In the next article I will be teaching both the guys and the girls how your behavior plays a big part on making it to the long haul. Barbara Jeanne xo


Finding Your Way To the Right Person! (Article One)

               My biggest goal is to get as many people possible to learn what a healthy, good relationship is and how to achieve this. We seem to have lost how to behave, act and treat another when in a relationship. This in turn is ending what once was a good relationship. I will teach you how to turn a relationship that may be heading for the end to a new beginning. It’s all in our attitude and how we treat your partner. You meet a person and you feel a connection and things seem to be going well but all of a sudden the happy relationship that was heading in the right direction takes a turn for the worse. This leaves one of the two of you confused. I am not going to pick a gender because both men and women are getting hurt, but what I see and hear it seems like women are getting their hearts broken a little bit more so than men. So let’s try and figure out what may be going wrong. Two people meet and when things get to a point of a certain closeness this is the time people seem to make a turn around and might disappear. What happens? Sometimes you start hearing less from them, you feel the coldness and you know in your heart something is wrong. You start to get a bit frantic because you may have just given yourself to this person and now things are not turning into what you once started to have big dreams for. Here is some wise advice do not give yourself until you are in a monogamous committed relationship. One, this will keep the challenge going, two, it gives both of you the opportunity to really see if you two may truly like one another. You can also see if it’s more than giving your body to someone, and three, you will see if this person is someone that you can see yourself in a relationship. There are many factors in building a relationship. A big one is this person you have begun to see are they looking for a relationship. Are there incidents that come up that strike you funny but you put them on the back burner. This is your intuition and you should never ignore. Now that I hit the beginning of what might be. I will continue article by article. But I will end this by saying. Don’t start or get into a relationship if you are not ready or just to get laid. If you are in it to get laid being honest, it’s better than hurting someone’s feelings and having to deal with dodging this person. As well as dealing with the text that you really don’t care to send or care about the person you are sending it to. So keep this in mind. If you meet someone that you think you may dig and then realize this is a no go be honest. This is the first step to having more success in finding the right person instead of wasting your time or another’s. Enjoy life as a single until the day comes when you find the right guy or gal. Barbara Jeanne xo