Don't Beg For the Love You Deserve

When you begin a relationship, usually it is mutual, which is a beautiful thing. As time goes on, it continues to be either mutual, or a bit one sided. If for some reason this does happen, the one being pushed away can feel this tremendously. What do they start doing? Thet start to try harder. Thinking that if I just expressed my love more, they will see and it will fix the problem. Instead what it does is make the other person run the other way and fast. Yes they might acknowledge you are doing nice gestures for them, but it will not make them care for you more. When we are five years old we are programmed to run, when chases us. When we are older, we value things that are harder to get. Not saying this is right. The child that gets ever toy, the get new toys and do not really appreciate them as much as a child who get less. I am not judging, just what I have learned in psychology. We are taught from a very young age and bring this into adulthood. We also feel the more we are pushed away the more we want. It becomes an infatuation trying to get back what you had. Using your own intuition, know when the person is saying nothing is wrong, your intuition is right. The calls and text are coming less, you are seeing the person less. You don not need a big banner running across the beach from one of those planes. So what do you do? First off, doing more will not help. Actually doing less will. They know who you are, so give them a chance to mss you. Don't lose your self respect. When I was writting  the story yesterday about the girl that her husband was cheating on. The sad part was she told her husband, go do what you have to do and I will be waiting. Only for him to come back to her to say he wanted to leave her. So...STOP...tryng to make someone love you. You are the most precious gift, and learn to know this. Don't allow yourself to beg for love, and lose you dignity. It makes the person you want and others think that you don't feel worthy of them. So pick up your head, grab a hold of your heart and love yourself, because their is somone that will apprciate you for it, and love you back.  XO Barbara Jeanne