Is There A Deadline to On Line Chatting When Looking for a Relationship

So many people are talking on sites, starting out as friends and turning into more. The funny thing is that relationships are forming on line, but that is as far as many seem to go. It is okay for two consenting singles, and if they both know it is casual flirting..period. That their friendship/relationship is not going any further. For some it isn't too funny beacuse feelings are forming. On line chatting is turning into mini relationships. The problem is that usually one is thinking that their relationship that they are having is more serious than the other person is thinking. The other problem is that one may be talking to many and the other may think that they are the only one and in their mind it is growing into meaningful relationship. Especially once whatever the other person is using for an excuse lifts that their magical relationship will then start. The thing is that if a person really wants to meet, espeacially after a period of getting to know one another, they would make it happen. So what should be the cut off point to the chatting, where it should become face to face. I believe that, the chatting should be very short lived. Only because, why waste time talking with someone only to meet them and realize you have wasted your time because there is no attraction. The person on the other end of the line could be anybody. You are thinking they are someone totally different from whom they say they are.  That doesn't always work, you may like talking to someone, but when you meet them, you aren't thrilled. People who you talk to may be talking to many people the same way. Other may be in a dating scene, where they keep meeting people and see if the next one tops the last and so on. So they have a list and they are chosing who they might choose to be with. We are people not things on a shelf. That you pick up put down, come back to check out again. Someone I advise, stays on line with guys for months before she meets them, I tell her big mistake. Most of the time it seems they are unsure to meet her, for a couple different reasons. When they do, she doesn't seem to get to the next date. So I feel she is now afraid to have that meeting, She told me today she went on a date with a guy that she has been talking to on line for eight months. Their date was at the movies and his arms were crossed in front of him the whole time which not a good sign, but that is another article. She did not hear from him, so she texted him hello several times. He finally texted her back and wrote he had a girlfriend. If she would of met him as I said, she wouldn't of wasted time. Unless you have the time to just talk to a stranger months, then that is a bit of a waste, if you are looking for a relationship. If you are friends, or on the same page as I said before then it's fine. If you are looking for a relationship don't allow yourself to be someones seconds or thirds, or anywhere down the line. Also these people that call or write you out of the blue, and ask if you are single. Come on now, that is another not so special moment. On line dating is they way many look for love but just as in real life meeting, we will meet the losers! XO Barbara Jeanne