How to Date & Be Successfully

    Everyone is looking for love, on dating sites, internet sites, bars and anywhere you might be able to meet. Yet so many people write me almost every day asking me to help them find a partner. There are millions of people out there but it seems two people can’t connect. So what can be going wrong? I truly think that many people have forgotten the basics of how to start a relationship. The conversation that goes back and forth should stay to what is said if you were to meet them in person. Ask about them, their life and get to know them. Do not start to talk on a sexually manner or move to the flirty talk too quickly. Take it slow and be genuine. Meet sooner than later unless you live far. Although in this situation I would step back and ask each other is one of you really going to move so you don’t waste each other’s time. The internet is the number one way of meeting people. For some reason from what I’ve seen and heard through most of my friend’s men and women have terrible stories. The people they have met all have lied about one thing or another or have a completely different personality when they meet them in person. Some of the complaint’s I have gotten is they lie about their weight, the picture was old; I’ve even heard that the picture wasn’t them. I cannot stress the fact to be honest for so many reasons. First off they will see you; second your lies will have to come out if you two go into a serious relationship. I am not saying you have to offer personal information about yourself by any means but the surface things of life should be said. What are the surface things, well…if you have children and how old they are. Keep the picture fairly updated. If you put one up from ten years ago, even five years ago you should take a current one. Also if you are in the dating market freshen yourself up. It’s time to start taking care of you. Hit the gym to shed those unwanted pounds. Be groomed, so you can be ready to be and be who they think they are going to meet. Keep your mind open towards people you might not always take notice of.  You really got to say to yourself would I date me. I also find that people who are looking put the standards very high. People’s top priority is looks, instead of finding a person that has good conversation and a lot of other qualities that are important. When a person does find someone they do like they hold on to them for dear life because this doesn’t happen too often. Even if the person stops calling they ask me what to do. You can’t do much. If it didn’t work for both of you move on. To sum it up, you may be looking for the wrong person that is why you are having such a hard time. Talk and see if there is depth to your conversation with this person or is everything vague. You can learn a lot by really listening, so take time to do so and good luck!