How To Get Over Someone That Has Gotten Over You!

It has come that moment that you have been dreading, the break up and although deep down you might know it is the right thing. I mean this person is not treating you their best and that is what you deserve. Isn’t that how you treat them? You think about them constantly, you wonder if they are okay. If you are at the store you pick up their favorite snack. You text them, call them and show them how much you care. Somehow you are not getting any of those things back. When they do call or text you get all warm and excited but as soon as the next day comes and there is no text or call you’re back to square one feeling devastated.  Most of the time you walk around in a daze, between being unhappy and being confused you aren’t yourself. All this being said, you know the time has come to part your ways, say your good bye but why does it hurt so much. You invested so much love into this person. Not even the time but love. You put their needs first, given it you’re all and they don’t want you. It literally sucks and what worse you can’t do much about it but suck it up, maybe cry and try to keep going. I can’t say your pain will go away quickly or you will get him back. I can say what I did and it helped me heal a hell of a lot quicker. Although the guy I was dating for over four years wanted me back, the thought of going was not even a thought. So I too had to suck it up and let it go. I had all six seasons of Sex n The City, I watched every episode, I had just moved out from living with him and I had no living room furniture. So I would lie in my blankets wrapped up all on the floor and just did my own thing. I watch the show had my cry and this show actually made me stronger quicker. I listened to all my music that made me strong, a lot of I’ll do better without you songs. After a brief period, way shorter than I thought I was up, out and moving on. I met my new guy about a week later. My ex was stunned when he walked into a restaurant and saw me having dinner with my new guy. All he had to say was I never thought you would move on so quickly. So if you are in the same situation where you have broken up, need to break up or you know it’s a possibility. Know you can do it; you lived life without them before you met them and you will live life again without them. You will survive, and you will also leave yourself open to meeting someone worth your love. Barbara Jeanne xo