First Dates, What to Look For & How to Behave

 It’s your first date or maybe you have been on a few, but you can’t read their signs. What do you need to look for to know if the date is pointing in the right direction? First off are they looking at you, and not all around? Are their eyes focused on yours? Is their shoulder and feet pointing towards you? These are just a few signs that things are going good. If they are touching their hair, moving around and fussing is a sign they aren’t confident. They might be nervous or not interested. Now if they are asking questions about you and your life and they seem concerned and are actually paying attention to what you are saying great sign. If they are leaning towards you or touching you, another good sign. If there is a lack of talking, quiet periods, awkward moments and a look of boredom you better try and turn thing around if you like this person. How do you do this? First off the best way for this not to happen is to think beforehand of what you can talk about, so your conversations can flow? Think of funny incidents that may have occur, even if they were awkward to you these are the good conversation pieces. Laughing is a good form to advance to the next date. Although you want to be yourself you need to be on your best behavior. No cursing, boys be gentlemen and girls be ladies. It’s important that you take the time to dress to impress and try to make sure you look your best. If you are not sure what to wear, ask for some help from a sales clerk or a friend that you respect their opinion. If the kiss comes naturally great but do not force it. If you do feel that you would like one and you feel like the kiss is close, ask them. Their answers well tell you a lot. If the say yes, it’s great, and you can move forward. If they are shy, feel it out. But if you ask for a second date and they avoid giving an answer then let it go and leave it on them. Say, I would love to see you again so please call anytime and I look forward to hearing from you. If you don’t hear from them you can call once if you like, and then let it go. You can drink but I would have no more than two to three tops. That may take off the nervous edge without making you all loopy and crazy. Do not down the drinks like you’re dehydrated, take it slow and enjoy. Lastly, no sex of any type, period. Keep it to kissing. If the relationship progresses you have all the time for that and it will be so much more meaningful. Barbara Jeanne xo