You Love Them One Minute The Next You Hate! (Should You Stay or Should You Go?)

There is a type of relationships that many people are in that can drive a person crazy. It’s similar to the yoyo relationship but this is when you are with a partner that one minute you are saying “I love this person, and I want to be in this relationship”, then a minute later you can be saying I hate this person, they make me sick to my stomach”. You go back in forth in your mind over and over that you start to drive yourself crazy. And what do you do? Nothing, you stay and keep trying to figure out if you should stay or if you should go. This kind of relationship is tiring, frustrating and can be very confusing. You literally want out one minute and the next they do something that you are back. So how do you handle a relationship that is changing faster than the time that is going by and you are losing? You need to evaluate the pros and cons. Get a piece of paper and write a list of the good qualities that give you reason to stay. Next make a list of the things that aren’t good in your relationship. What is making you want to bow out and call it quits? People stay in these relationships for years and all they are is miserable on the whole. What confuses them is the good moments with the bad moments and this can waste a lot of time. Before you realize you have done this indeed you need to do some soul searching. Don’t be afraid to make a change, you might make it harder on your life but you will leave the door open to find someone that you can actually enjoy and won’t drive you to “I love you, I love you not! Barbara Jeanne xo