Why Love Is So Hard to Find & Why? Let's Make Wanting Love, Finding Love Happen!

         People so desperately want to be in love by why are people having such a hard time to connect? Is it that people think something better could be out there? Although they may meet someone that is a perfect match for them they may think there might be someone better out there so they continue to search. Search and search for what? What is it that they are looking for? Is it they are looking or are they are addicted to the search? I find that people are having online relationships. Sometimes this is with one person sometimes with many. You may feel like you are actually in a relationship as day’s weeks maybe months goes by. You two may get closer when you decide to meet. When you finally meet they are not what you thought. At this point you back up quickly while this person you have made a relationship with is full speed ahead. They press to meet and you keep making excuses. But you seem to call them when you are bored or if you got intimate as a booty call. So this person unknowingly is placed in the booty call list. Instead of doing this have the decency to explain that there wasn’t a connection on your part and wish them well. For two reasons one is being the right thing to do and two you can move on without them asking what’s going on between the two of you. So if we are on the hunt to find the perfect mate or it seems to be just to have fun maybe people aren’t looking for their soul mate but someone to comfort them for right now. So if we aren’t looking for the always and forever does this mean that maybe people have stopped believing in it and are just having fun. And when the fun stops with one person they move on or even better maybe people are having fun with several people at the same time. How sad to think that love is lost because our thought process is that no relationship can make it to always and forever. But what if instead of giving up on the forever love we learn how to love someone for the long haul. In doing so we might find true, real, lasting love. The love that makes you want to have them by your side when you’re old and grey. Grow old having built many memories together. Some memories may be bad but you will also have many amazing memories as well. This brings substance in your life as well as stability and nothing feels better than being loved, really loved. Those undying loves that love that you can’t live without you love. If you have forgotten how it feels you are in dire need of real love. Maybe it’s time to stop playing games and start to look for the real thing. Barbara Jeanne xo