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The Essential's Of a Relationship: Tips


              It seems that relationships are taking a toll. I have been seeing this commercial that shows a couple and then goes on to say “who knows what’s going to happen in your future but get a loan here and get your dream house”. So basically they are saying who knows if your relationship or marriage is going to work, but go for it anyway. Hum that doesn’t sound very positive. Buy a house either way, if you do or don’t stay together. That just sounds rather peculiar to me. Being a marketing major and minor in advertising in college, that is one pitch that I never heard. But I guess never say never, anything can change in a blink of an eye these days.

          Many girls are no longer waiting for their night and shining armour, they are doing it on their own. And if a girl does meet a nice partner on the way, well that’s just an added benefit. Many times I see the girl breaking out their hard earned cash to pay. So guys no longer have to worry that it is always on him, it takes a lot of stress off of them. Let’s face it, guys think about paying every time you two go out, and knows that it can add up very quickly. Most girls wouldn’t want to pay every time you two would venture out let's be honest. Think about that next time you go out; don’t think it has to always be on the guy’s dime. Well unless they have the money. It’s still nice to pay or do other gesture to show that you are willing to spend your cash. We both work hard now days and we don’t want to spend a big chunk of our weekly pay on dates.

          There are so many ways to have date night right at home and still have an awesome time.

1.    You can have a candle light dinner where you dress up. Take turns setting up and arranging the dinner, with your own special romantic ideas. Put on music and dance. That music that you hold each other tight. You can use songs that mean something to you two. Like your wedding song, songs you both like when you are driving around and singing like you can :) A slow song that reminds you when you first met, or something that the two of you did that was a great memory. We all know those songs that comes along with fond memories with every relationship. (some songs not so fond :(  )

2.    If you are of age and you can drink, play some cards, or a game. Get paper or index cards and write romantic emotions, such as kissing, touching, massaging, etc. Use your ideas to make funny ones, romantic one and ones that will get you wet and wild and ready for some loving. And pick a length of time for each. Next pick out a word that you say often such as “drink”. But in this game you are not allowed to say that word. That word would now be “consume”. And every time you do say “drink and not consume” you have to drink, and then pick a card and act on it.

3.    Play hide and seek. If you dear play naked hide n seek. You blindfold your partner and you stay in one room and close the door. You have to say “here” give the blindfolded person hints. Once the blindfoled person catches you, the blindfolded person has to do something to you, such as a romantic kiss. Do something that will get their heart racing. Lick, touch and tease. Next the other person goes. Do these until you can’t go anymore besides getting under the sheets for some loving.

4.    If you chose the old fashion hide n seek, stay in the house but be creative. And although it is not the most romantic, it’s fun. And fun times build a relationship. So that is always a plus. Take it to another level. When you are caught you have to take an item off.

5.     Strip poker with a twist. The originally game is if you lose you have to take a garment off. In this version you still take a garment off, but you have to do whatever your partner wants for 30 seconds. Yummy right. Play until you are both so hot and heated.

6.    This one is simple and all it requires is you and your partner. Get some soothing massage oil. Flip a coin who goes first, give a full body massage. It’s not only awesome for stress, massage places that will get your partner’s blood and body going to want more. Next it’s your partner turn to be massage, touched, teased. You can call it a night and get some good sleep, or take it to the next level with some awesome sex.

7.    Take a bubble bath or a shower together and wash each other and don’t forget all the trigger areas. And something you both have to remember it gets cold so make sure you both are under the water. If you are taking a bath, one is behind “Pretty Woman Style”. Don’t know, well then you need to see the movie, to see how romantic it is. Everything doesn’t mean sex. Touching is so very important. But for those who want to go there, I don’t have to tell you what should come next. Sex in the shower or take it to your room.

8.    Go to the sex shop store and get some toys. Maybe a vibrator, some taste creams, or eatable panties. There is so much, go have fun, just looking. But you must leave with at least one item that you can play with when you get home.

9.    Make an appetizer and listen you your favorite music, feed each other and when your done listening to the music you both like, check out the slow songs that you both dig, and slow dance while you are kissing. This is a yummy one, I love to kiss. This is one that brings you closer. Music somehow always makes memories, especially to us women. But guys actually do identify a woman with a song. So while you are listening you can find that mutual song that will be one of your songs. Goodness that is a good one.

   10. Lastly have a movie night, where the meal is simple, and you just

          munch and watch, hold hands, put your head on your partners   

          shoulders. Rub your partner arms, stomach head here and there,      

and maybe a little bit of everywhere (Just saying J) other than that just chill. You now have that in common for conversation.

          When two people first meet we do things that make our relationship exciting. We have that want to please, to conquer. As time goes on, people seem to lose sight of what brought you two together. We lose sight on the laughter and the fun you two had. Girls tend to become mothers and in turn that makes guys rebel, or even tend to act like a son. Well if you keep acting like a mom ladies that is not going to make your partner feel manly is it. Guys you need to take just a few minutes to hug your pretty little lady. Ask how her day went, kiss her softly. And by Heavens to Betsy do not tell your partner to move because you can’t see the TV. Yea that happened to me, I was butt naked. And my ex totally failed. I guess that is why he is my ex. But people get so damn lazy, that’s why most relationships fail. And lastly don’t be with someone to change their things about them. It is one of the hardest things to accomplish. A relationship is team work. Remember you are a couple. So although you are still I, and me, you are also we and us. Do what is necessary to stay us. We sometime are so stubborn and we don’t want to give up the “I”, until we lose the person that once was the “we”. Pick your battles you do not need to win them all. Doing so you might get what you are asking for. So relax and love. Love is so needed and necessary in life. It helps your relationships flourish, and I tell you when you get older it’s nice to have friends, but honestly it is way nicer to have a smooth loving relationship. P.S. I almost forgot naked twister!

                                                       Love, Barbara Jeanne  xo


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Hey what sup girl nice pics I see on face book

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