When You Shouldn't Stay (Phyical Or Mental Abuse)

When is it time to call it a day on the relationship you are in? When it is abusive relationship? What is abusive? When you partner is constantly putting you down, making you feel worthless. When you feel like nothing you do is right or everything you are doing is wrong, and your partner is picking you apart, I would call this mental abusive. Even talking down to you as you mean nothing to them is a good time to bow out. We can’t forget name calling, yes that is abuse as well. When your partner is putting their hands on you in any other way besides loving is abuse. A smack, a slap, even a push, is physical abuse. It need not be a punch to be abusive. If you are always crying over this person, or if you are constantly thinking you don't want to be with this person but accept to stay that is you allowing to be abused. At this point you may need to seek professional help. If you hear this persons voice and you get disgusted you need to realize this union is coming to an end. I think you too realize these are signs that are telling you, your relationship is not doing well and may be your time to turn around and walk away. You can be a trooper and hang in there until it gets to the point of bitter and reckless, but if you have any pride bow out and let it go! You can become co-dependent on this person and think it’s just their personality and deep down they love you. Stop! Yes there is a saying you hurt the ones you love but that saying stinks and doesn’t really make sense. If anyone treats you crappy and hurts you they do it because they think you will accept it and by staying around is telling them you do accept it and they will continue. So either nip it in the butt and stop it and if it continues get out and fast. My guessing most people that are abusive don’t change unless they want to not by you telling them. By not allowing this behavior may smarten them up to realize they are going to lose you. If you don’t get the results you are looking for which is this person apologizing and stopping, then you need to move on. This gives you a chance to find someone that will love and appreciate you, the way you should be treated. Barbara Jeanne xo