You Like A Guy & He Like's You ( Why Are You Still Unsure?)

You go on a date on with a guy; you may even starting dating this guy and you really like him. You feel like the two of you are connecting, getting closer. You are starting to maybe even fall for this guy. He seems to be giving you the same vibe as you are feeling for him, that he’s really seems to like you. Then something changes, he seems to have cold feet and you start hearing less from him.  Things have been going great, so you aren't sure why, or what’s going on in his head. You two are having fun, laughing and getting along great when you are together. When he leaves though, he’s leaving with the feeling that he is putting distance between the two of you. Everything seems fine on your end but he’s not talking, so you don’t why the change. So what may be the problem? Who the hell knows, you do know your feelings haven’t change but has he’s?  Most women go into a relationship, and know what they want. If they like a guy as time goes by the give more and more of their heart to the guy they are digging. Some men go in too fast and then all of a sudden they feel like they are in too deep. Maybe the feeling they like too much, or falling to fast and don’t like not being in control.  The may have commitment issue or broke up with someone they are not quite over yet. Most women give it their all in a relationship, so when they are done they may have their cry but if a new man is to comes in the picture they will take that chance. If a man has just gotten out of a relationship they tend to remember all the things they could have done to avoid the break up. Men seem to hold on to the memory of what was. It could even be, they want to see what else is out there. First off why do men feel they have to when things are going so right with you? Why can't men be satisfied with one damn woman? Second, when they realize there isn't crap out there, or it is hard to match two people together. Their ass comes calling you back. With hi, how are you. You are thinking, why now? You didn’t care when you dump my ass and I was calling you. You didn’t care to return my phone calls or texts. All of a sudden they care. So it is up to us woman to decide are we going to give these men another chance, or will they bail as easy as they did the first time. The answer is yes, unless they are truly ready. These men will do it again and why, because we all allowed them to come back to us too easily. The circle is a man is with you, leaves you and comes back. So what can we do that can change the chance that it will not happen again. Don't put them first, until they have earned it. You don't need them; remember you made it without them up until the point the two of you met. So, if they are back, it is either you are better than what they found, or they might have actually missed you. Either way, it is your chance to find out before you give your time and your heart all over again. Ask them why did they leave and why are they back. Then it is you decision. Be careful and wise. Be yourself and not bitchy. Just be strong and remember you forgive but you don't forget. You can forget when you either know they have done right by you and truly care, then the time might be right to let it go! Barbara Jeanne XO