So Afraid to Get Married?

I went to a seminar on relationships and the person giving the lecture said the majority of people, especially younger people, men, and the people have already that been married, especially men are reluctant to take the walk down the aisle. It's a sad thing when men and women are meant to be together. That is how God set it to be. For so many reason. For men to nuture off of women, and for men to protect  the women. As well as the big one, to keep the world going to have children. The biggest thought, was to love one another out of love comes growth in so may ways. Men continue to learn from the woman they mate with as men tend to the nest. Something has gone terribly wrong. There had been so many divorces, bad relationships, bad break ups and the big one broken hearts. People no longer look at getting married with great enthusiasm as we once did. Leaving men not wanting to ask a woman to get married, so tht in turns slows done the process of commitment, the white dress and the walk down the aisle. Younger people are seeing that the older people, including their parents that didn't make it for always and forever. So where it once was the normal age of 16 to 18 in the fifties, to 18 to 21 in the eighties. 21 to 28 throughout the ninties till 2000. Leaving us now in 2011 somewhere in the late, late 20's till the early to mid thirties, to get married. Yet when people find love including men and women their heart beats faster, their day is brighter and their life is a whole lot better because of this person you fell in love with. So you got them but you won't popped the question, so many times you lose good woman to another man. Just because of satistics and what all the money men say they lose in a divorce. These tv shows, movies, that shows that the man loses everything, all his money when he divorces. Instead of looking at marriage as the glass being half empty, why not look at the glass as completely full. That your union with the person you choice to take that walk with, is the only one you will ever be with. From day one, you will put all of your love and effort into it. As well as woman, it can't be that if it doesn't work out there is always divorce, that was what the majority of the poll said woman said. That divorce is not an option. Your only option is to stay married. Unless abuse of course. What would you do if that became a law. A life binding contract, that once you married and you signed those papers, you were binded for life. Would marriage exist or would it become obsolete. I would hope that wouldn't be a case. Last but not least all the marriages that went sour and you were totally heart broken so you don't, won't commit again. Feel like it is best to stay alone, that is extremely sad and pathetic, their are so many people to love, get out there or get on line, whatever is your fancy and do something. For you young single guys, commit and talk the walk, it could be the most rewarding thing you will ever do! XO Barbara Jeanne