Finding Out Your Man Might Be Bi Curious

This may be a taboo topic but I think it needs to be addressed because it is happening to many girls including myself. What is the topic a straight guy that is bi curious? I’m opening up my life because a part of what I know is what I learned of relationships in my life. I was with this man for over four years never doubting, “my man”.  Women are going into a relationship with a guy with no doubt of this ever crossing their mind. That one day your man will act unusual, in what way? You may find men’s porn of his computer one day. As you look into it you may see that he may be talking to men in a sexual manor. He might have even put himself on a dating site, or have made himself an account to take it as far as talking or meeting these men. I can’t say why it happens but don’t think you made him this way. I remember when I found out the guy I was dating was trying to hug and kiss men. I kept telling him to stop it, that it’s weird. What made him change, when could it have happened. What could have made him curious? The only thing that I could think was he had just come back from being deployed for 6 months. While he was deployed he told me he watched a tri sexual porn that bothered him. I’m not sure if it bothered him or it intrigued him. All I thought was not only do I have to worry about women; I now have to worry about men. Geez, this was a lot to get a grip on. I knew something was going on, but it wasn’t until he was in the shower and his phone rang and it said it was a hotel. Being curious I answered only to hear the person on the other end asks for him and went on to say that he never arrived for his check in time but his guest was waiting. I was a bit frazzled. I wasn’t sure what to do, I was not one to snoop I do not believe in that behavior but at this point all my rights and wrongs went out the window. I went to his voice mail and I thought I was going to hear a women’s voice but the guest that was waiting was a man. Then I continued to listen and it was man after man. I thought what? Some of my best friends in my life have been gay guys but not one that I dated. At this point I gave it a bit more thought and he was so confused at this point I had to let him go. I did find out that he got involved very heavily. Point being if this situation is to ever occur in your relationship, you need to realize this is something that they are going through, not you. You are only part of it because you are in a relationship with him. You can make it easy for you and them and give them their life and time to figure out what they want and who they are. If you do decide to stay for that period they might ask you to swing. Eventually unless you love him that much to go with the flow, all I can say from the bottom of my heart and what I went through let it go. Barbara Jeanne xo