How to Stop the Bitterness In A Relationship

When you start out as a new couple, you start off with a clean slate. As time goes by things are said and done to one another that may hurt the others feelings. You don’t think things you may say are hurtful other times it is your goal to hurt your better half to the core. As time goes by you see your partner may start to have an attitude, snapping at you. It then begins to have the pattern of snapping back and forth. There is always the stronger one. The one with the more aggressive personality usually gets the better of the argument. Although as time goes by you are teaching you mate to be just as strong. Eventually you get to be two competitive people fighting nastily. You are now both hurting by each nasty word that is coming out of both of your mouths. Soon this once loving couple is snow balling in such a negative direction it is not likely that you will be able to turn it around. There is something that could be done that might help from the get go, it’s an old saying that we have learned since we were little. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. This rings so true. It’s not always a verbal fight over what is being said, it could be something one is doing or the lack of doing that is driving the other crazy. Instead of stating what is the real problem we dilly dally around what is really bugging us. So we may be yelling for some crazy reason that has nothing to do with what is coming out of our mouths. So say what you mean, not just words to show how mad you are. In the long run it gets you nowhere but alone when you two decide to go your separate ways because you didn’t communicate. So it’s important that you do so. By having better communication, you have a better chance of holding on to this relationship. Remember it is also how you say it. So always try to say what you want with a kind heart. Barbara Jeanne xo