You Were In Love & Somehow It Became Just Love (It's can still be so much better than looking for love especially on social sites)

So you have been with your partner for a while and you now having the feeling that you love them but you are no longer in love with them. So what do you do? You don’t want to have sex with them anymore and you feel they are more of a companion. They are someone that you are comfortable with. So you have the itch deep inside to seek outside your relationship. But you may be afraid and skeptical because it’s not like this person you are with is bad to you. Let me say it one more time “you’re just not in love with them” and this is all you can think of in your mind is to feel some passion again. You see everyone scaling the dating sites, talking on social network sites such as Facebook, Google +, Yahoo there are many to choose from. All your single friends are telling you all the people they are talking to. It may seem like so much fun compared to your boring life with a partner you would rather hug if even that, than do anything else. It’s wonderful to have passion in your relationship. It’s wonderful to want to f*** the crap out of you partner. In reality this is something that is short lived in the sense of the everyday for most. There are many couples that enjoy having sex with their significant other on a regular basis and you have to have a good connection for this to occur. This means you have to work on keeping the fun in your union. No matter married or not you have to enjoy each other’s company. You have to keep the laughter. It keeps the want to touch and to see each other. Okay let me explain, would you want to be with someone that shows they don’t give a crap, or is bitchy and shows no care? These are things you need to work on to keep a happy healthy relationship. So before you throw what you have out the window and look what’s behind door number two get a clue to what’s the real deal? The truth of the matter it’s not fun to talk to numerous people that they are talking to numerous other people in hopes that you two might as they might or might not like you. This brings you back to square one because there are so many people looking they may have had a wonderful time with you but because it may become a habit for them, or because there are so many singles out there they keep on keeping on. Yes you will hear from them probably but so will many others. The bottom line what I have gotten from many people out there and in my own findings. Dating sites don’t work and to boot these sites know it that is why they are bringing their clients out to meet people in real life with their meet and greets. So before you think the grass is greener on the other side know it’s not, its dirt. Don’t close the door to your relationship in hand with the thought that you want to feel that passion with another lover. To be in love and have that feeling that you used to have. You have to think that in love feeling you feel for a person changes to a comfort love, the love you know that they’ll always be there for you. Even though the relationship you are in just makes you feel content those sites leave you with no feeling of contentment, comfort or love. Actually many of these sites leave you frustrated, cold and alone. Remember done leap before you really think what you have and will lose. You may not have your knight in shining amour but love is love and it always feels better to be loved then to be just another person….Your choice. Barbara Jeanne xo