The YoYo Relationship (They Love Me, They Love Me Not)

Love is so hard to figure out at times. You may even wonder how much your partner really loves you. The love that you were once so certain about it is now leaving you doubting. You may even get into that yoyo relationship, where your honey may be so unloving at times, and then at other times they can show you so much love.  All this does is leaves your mind and heart more confused than ever. Thinking you want out then they show you love and you are now back in. So you get into the pattern, they love me they love me not. Until it finally gets to the point you had enough and you are a goner. This situation happens so frequently and in order to save what you have you need to nip it in the butt. People stay in this yoyo relationship for years because they get used to it but it is very unhealthy. It is also mental abuse which is just as bad as physical abuse.  What can be done to stop the situation of a downward spiral union?  When you first see the signs of the highs and lows and the flow change in the love you feel, you need to sit down with your partner.  State to them you don’t want to start this yoyo relationship. Ask them what may be bothering them, and you do the same and tell them as well. It is important to talk when you feel you two are connecting. I am a strong believer that if you bring unloving ways into the relationship or during the relationship, it then snow balls into a negative situation and becomes hard to save. Before it gets this far stop sit and talk, we all see the signs but wait until it is too late. Barbara Jeanne xo