Not Connecting In Love? (Published)
Okay ladies and gentlemen. We know all the advice. There have been endless articles and book but why is it we are not taking the advice that is pushed in our faces? We get it from every direction including all the talk shows that gives advice for years now from Ricki Lake, Tyra Banks to now Wendy Williams. Almost every issue in any magazine has an article on how to get and keep a man to how to spice up your sex life, and everything in between. Yet our society is having quite a hard on how to find their special someone that you connect with and want to build a relationship with. Maybe the problem is either we are not taking time to watch and read, or we are not willing to change our ways. Even if it means that you have a great chance to achieve an absolutely fabulous relationship with someone that you want to have that always and forever. So many people I speak with have no clue of why they are not connecting with the person and I hate to say almost everyone is not handling how to achieve love properly. You would think it would be easy that you meet someone you like each to each other and you start a relationship. It’s not; first off you need to both be on the same page ready and wanting a relationship. Next, after you know it is not working out you need to let it go and not become plan B or a booty call. This is teaching wrong behavior. You get used to it and that is what you expect from the opposite sex on how you are supposed to be treated. Both men and women many times do not have a good healthy example to go by and this is so very important. So you follow the path of what you learn, how you’re treated and you accept it instead of asking to be treated better and knowing that if a person truly loves you they will move heaven and earth to be with you. That my friend is what real love feels like. The want to be with this person so badly that you would do anything because without them your life would feel incomplete. If you are saying I don’t feel this way about anyone then my friend you probably are a bit selfish and in need of learning how to give and love someone. But know that if you do take this advice and take the time to learn how to love what you will get in return in the real deal. It may not matter now, but don’t wait till you get to the age that you can kick yourself because you waited too long and there will come that time that age will and does matter. Barbara Jeanne xo