Unhappy Relationship, Fix it or Leave It (You do have a choice)
I have written about being in a relationship that you are unhappy, completely miserable and you feel stuck but you don’t know exactly how to get yourself out of the situation you are in, or stay because you have the sure thing. I can’t stress the fact enough that we all have one life, one shot to achieve happiness. So do I condone cheating absolutely not, do I think it happens because people become extremely unhappy and it happens, yes. At times people go out looking for someone to cheat with, others it might not be what they are looking for but deep down it might be what they are hoping for. Sometimes people get into a relationship with a person and as time rolls on this person is no longer the person the met, fell in love with and if they knew this is what they would get they would have bowed out long before the total commitment. So what can be done to get out of this relationship that is making you miserable? First off you have to be honest with yourself and make sure it is them that are not putting onto this relationship. It is them that have changed and it is the other person that won’t seek help with you. And it is the other person that won’t change to make neither you happy nor the relationship work. If it’s them then you can clearly say they won’t change and now what and where do you have to go from here and make a decision. If it’s you that wants out and you already have made up your mind or both that have stopped trying then it may be easier to say that you may both may be unhappy and can bow out together. This makes is simple, you can both take a bow and close the curtain and move on. Either way what you should want for your life, as well if you have children is happiness. And it may be a hard thing to pull off but it is essential to have an outcome that you dreamed of when you entered into a longtime or lifetime relationship. Hopefully you always had the dream to be happy. You should want and deserve to have eternal happiness. So even if you may have your work cut out for you. There are steps to achieving this and as you read my articles I will guide you. It’s not a guide to cheating or breaking up a family or relationship but to be happy, that simple. Barbara Feola xo