Dating Etiquette For Men..Keep The Women Coming Back..

I know men know how to treat a lady and make it very obvious if they like her in letting her know so. They call often, text frequently and seeing the girl they like is very important. Let’s back up for a moment to meeting, talking and going on that first date. Although women want to be independent they do like being taken care of. They want romance, feeling pretty and swept away. This is because we see all those chick flicks and wish it was us. We know that is a movie and we live in reality but in the beginning of the relationship bring it on men. Not that woman wants you to stop your actions of chivalry but we know it would be hard to act like a knight in shining amour every day. Men, when you meet a woman you are interested in open the door, tell her how beautiful she looks and focus one her. Even if you meet and are disappointed don’t start looking around browsing at other women, it makes her feel crappy and it’s rude. If you meet on line always speak to her as a lady. Don’t start wanting to talk about sex, or asking for sexy pictures. You know how you should treat a women and asking them for sexy pictures is not the way. Ask her what she likes so if you ask her on another date these are things you can keep on mind. Don’t talk like you’re Don Juan. Be the down to earth person you are when you talk to friends, family or people in general. Don’t try to impress her with money, especially money you don’t have. Don’t talk about how broke you are because you lost your job or have alimony and child support, Bring out your good assets, a reason why she would want to date you. You don’t want a girl that wants you for your money or who is materialistic but you do want her to think you are ready to date and well put together. Don’t talk about your ex’s unless she asks and keep it short as it is no big deal. Yes you have had partners before I would say but on your first date you should be concentrating on getting to know this new girl. Take time to groom and give her a good first impression. If you ask her out again and she says no or call me, give her one call and if she doesn’t respond let it go. If the meeting went right you both will be eager to meet again and when you ask, her answer will be a quick be yes because in her heart she is so excited although she won’t let on. There are women who just want to have sex. They don’t want to lose their alimony or they may just want something casual. Unless you want a f*** buddy then I would pass. You will be wasting your time instead of looking for the real deal and you might get feeling even just by having sex thinking it might become more and all you will get is your heart broken. If you feel the girl is looking for money, if that is not your thing I would meet and pass. Don’t waste time on someone you don’t really like just because she is willing. That should never be enough. Just like women men too like to be pampered so find a girl that doesn’t mind pampering you as you would her. Don’t be all touchy feely unless she is touching you. In fact like her come forward to you, but guiding her, holding hands and making her feel safe is a must. Have fun enjoy but do not have sex on the first date, kissing yes but that is it. You have plenty time for the rest if your relationship progresses. Manners are so important so act like a gentleman. Have fun, and if you do like her, tell her but don’t be overly anxious. Do not drink like a fish or get drunk. If you like her treat precious and chances are you will be on your way to something new and something good. Barbara Jeanne xo

Dating Etiquette For Women...How to Keep The Men Coming Back

How to you attract a man and more importantly keep them. To begin with you must have substance. Meaning you need to be able to have a conversation in depth, that is stimulation for the mind. Men need to talk about things they like as well as when you first begin to date and you can carry the conversation it takes a lot of pressure off of the guy. When you can keep their mind stimulated then that is a big plus. If you make them laugh, big asset for men. They do not like babbling when a women talk about absolutely nothing, but continues to ramble. Make sure that you are dressed to impress, a first impression means everything. Not that you need to wear something formal but wherever you two are going dress appropriate but something that looks impressive. If you two make it to the relationship stages you have plenty of days to wear your sweat for now look your best. Be attentive when they talk, don’t look bored and keep focused on them. Ask about there like and childhood, as you can bring up yours. Be assertive, if they are coming to your area and ask where should you go do not say I don’t know or what do you want to do. Men like when you speak up and make it easier for them to do less thinking. Do not make them spend a lot of money on the first date if they allow you to pick. If they choose to take you someplace expensive that is their decision. As you continue to date don’t be over bearing let them know you are a team player. Don’t pout, get pissed off or argue, if you do they will be gone in a heartbeat. You have many moments for that later if you stay a couple. Women seem to nag as time goes by I find the more you talk in a understanding manner and the less you nag the more they will go along with the things that bothers you. Get to know your man’s likes and dislikes. Not that you have to play the quippie doll part but you want to be a best friend, a lover and partner. Not a mother, a question asker nor not fun. Be the person that he wants to hang out with and enjoy your company. Do not talk about the future, you two just met. Leave that for the future when it is the appropriate. As well as the next date, allow him to ask you. If he doesn’t he is not interested or needs time to think. Do not have sex with him. Kissing is fine if you feel comfortable. Keep it lady like though. The next date you can get a bit more into the heavy kissing, it is good to make the man want. It’s nice to want. Be a lady, act like a lady and dress sexy but like a lady. You do have to be yourself so if you do feel like you are trying to hard then he might not be for you. Lastly have fun, and lots of it. Barbara Jeanne xo

Sleeping With the Enemy..You Got One Life..Be Happy

So many couples sleeping in the same bed don’t like the person that they have sleeping next to them. Their relationship is over it has been for some time now. They try to be cordial but most of the time they can’t stand to hear their voice or see their face. These couples that once were so in love now talking nasty to one another basically borderline hate. This is not love or a relationship. It is time to rethink if it’s time to close this act and bow out or try to recapture any of the love that you once had. I mean you met and fell in love so you had something special at one point. Did something happen that brought resentment to this once happy union or was it lost over time from lack of care. First off is there a reason to fight to stay together. If you have children together would probably be the main and only reason that would make you think twice before you would throw in the towel so quickly. Saying, where would you go? Having property together doesn’t hold up to happiness, so what’s another excuse? If you are not happy by all means before you give in, give it your all. If there is any abuse that means talking down to one another, physical abuse no question it would be a no brainier to leave. If it is that you don’t want to start all over, be alone or feel like you are not able to take care of yourself it is never too late to educate yourself and get a better job. It is better to be alone and be happy then being miserable feeling lifeless like you are just existing. I remember a movie St. Elmo’s Fire, one of the characters did everything to please everyone else but herself. At the end of the movie she finally got away from everyone and got herself her own little apartment. A friend stopped by to say hello and he said how proud he was of her for doing it (getting on her own). He asked her how she liked it; she replied “it’s my place, my rules and my peanut butter and jelly sandwich and it’s the best I ever had because it’s mine. I remember it those words when I decided to break up the family myself and was doing it on my own. So I know when you accomplish something and how proud you are of yourself. Last words, never stay with anyone for a long period of time where you are in any situation you are miserable. Life is too short and you are too precious. You need to live not just exist. You have one life one shot do not miss your opportunity to be happy. Barbara Jeanne xo

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Men, Show Your Woman Love (or come home one day & she might not be there)

                 This problem seems to be hitting many couples, coming to me asking advice. The problem is that the woman wants out of the relationship.  The woman doesn’t care if it a month, a year or decades, they want out.  Women don’t care; they are packing up and are leaving or asking the man to leave. Usually no matter what she says I hate to say, she either is completely miserable, or has a man on the side. I know a woman that has six children and had everything that she could have desired. A new house, new car, built in pool, the works. She had a man that had worked up his business to be one of the biggest in the state. The problem was that he was never home. So the pretty little lady got tired of having her children as her life and met a man that was simple. The new guy didn’t own his home just rented and she was happier there with someone that showed her the care and love then alone waiting for any bit of attention from her ex. Women crave conversation, they crave a warm hug, for you to ask them how was their day. They want to hear you say she looks beautiful even if she’s a mess after a hard day with the children. These things only take minutes and go a long way. Have a date night, even if it is after the children are asleep. Don’t allow your life to be consumed by work, or she will leave. I am not saying every woman but most. Someone is always looking for love just has you were. So you need to step up and be who and what you were to her, her lover and best friend. Why would you ever expect her to stay when you are not their emotionally or mentally, or tried to fit in one family day with her and the kids. She needs he time with you to be a woman, to feel like your woman. So don’t stand there with your mouth dropped and your heart broken if you come home one day and she wants out. You get what you give and you know this. So I’m not telling you something you don’t know.