Summer Lovin (Part 1)

The warm weather is now upon us. We can shed those winter layers we have been wearing and slip on some lighter threads. The spring is almost at its end and the summer months will be coming.  These months are a good chance to be romantic, to rekindle the closeness you may not have felt through the cold winter nights. So how can we do this? Take a stroll around the block or on the beach or boardwalk. Sit in the back yard and look at the stars and talk. Lie on the beach on the blanket and listen to the waves. Hold hands, dance under the moon light, a picnic in the park or have you partner push you on the swing. There are so many ways to get close to your honey, enjoy and get to know one another again. Sometimes when two people are in the same relationship they grow in different directions which is only normal so it is good to take time to get back on the same path, or at least know where and what is going on in their head. If a couple doesn’t listen to what the other is thinking or feeling or even care to know you lose touch with the other and it can cause a wedge between the two of you. The summer time is a great time to reconnect with you mate. Remember it is a great time to dare to go bare. Being naked can lead to closeness and even some fun time? Don’t feel that just because you don’t have that perfect body you can’t go bare, sexiness comes from within you. Nobody is perfect. If you have a kind heart and a sweet touch that is worth more in the long run. Enjoy the summer and keep this in mind if you are in a relationship and you don’t have those laughs, tender touches and that kiss that makes you feel love then you need to do some work. Love is like a rose and without love it dies. XO Barbara Jeanne

When It's Time To Let Go

The warm weather is now upon us. We can shed those winter layers we have been wearing and slip on some lighter threads. The spring is almost at its end and the summer months will be coming.  These months are a good chance to be romantic, to rekindle the closeness you may not have felt through the cold winter nights. So how can we do this? Take a stroll around the block or on the beach or boardwalk. Sit in the back yard and look at the stars and talk. Lie on the beach on the blanket and listen to the waves. Hold hands, dance under the moon light, a picnic in the park or have you partner push you on the swing. There are so many ways to get close to your honey, enjoy and get to know one another again. Sometimes when two people are in the same relationship they grow in different directions which is only normal so it is good to take time to get back on the same path, or at least know where and what is going on in their head. If a couple doesn’t listen to what the other is thinking or feeling or even care to know you lose touch with the other and it can cause a wedge between the two of you. The summer time is a great time to reconnect with you mate. Remember it is a great time to dare to go bare. Being naked can lead to closeness and even some fun time? Don’t feel that just because you don’t have that perfect body you can’t go bare, sexiness comes from within you. Nobody is perfect. If you have a kind heart and a sweet touch that is worth more in the long run. Enjoy the summer and keep this in mind if you are in a relationship and you don’t have those laughs, tender touches and that kiss that makes you feel love then you need to do some work. Love is like a rose and with out love it dies. XO Barbara Jeanne

Facebook & Social Sites (Get the Facts)

The number of divorces occurring because of Facebook and other social networking sites has been on the rise since these sites have become increasingly popular, research claims. These sites are being utilized more and more by unhappy individuals to seek out and have an affair and cheat on their partner.

Facebook is being cited in almost one in five of online divorce petitions, lawyers have claimed.

People will post just about anything on social networking sites. And the information can be used against them. David Randall and Victoria Richards report.

In the judicial backwater of a New Jersey federal court, a case is being heard that nominally affects two families but should also make millions of Britons think twice about something they do every day: put highly personal information on Facebook, MySpace or Bebo.

The social networking site, which connects old friends and allows users to make new ones online, is being blamed for an increasing number of marital breakdowns.

Divorce lawyers claim the explosion in the popularity of websites such as Facebook and Bebo is tempting to people to cheat on their partners. Suspicious spouses have also used the websites to find evidence of flirting and even affairs which have led to divorce.

One law firm, which specializes in divorce, claimed almost one in five petitions they processed cited Facebook.

Mark Keenan, Managing Director of Divorce-Online said: “I had heard from my staff that there were a lot of people saying they had found out things about their partners on Facebook and I decided to see how prevalent it was I was really surprised to see 20 per cent of all the petitions containing references to Facebook.

“The most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to.”

An American insurance company, in defending its refusal to pay out a claim, is seeking to call in evidence personal online postings, including the contents of any MySpace or Facebook pages the litigants may have, to see if their eating disorders might have “emotional causes”. And the case is far from a lone one. Suddenly, those saucy pictures and intimate confessions on social networking sites can be taken down and used in evidence against you in ways never dreamed of.

Flirty emails and messages found on Facebook pages are increasingly being cited as evidence of unreasonable behavior. Computer firms have even cashed in by developing software allowing suspicious spouses to electronically spy on someone’s online activities.

One 35-year-old woman even discovered her husband was divorcing her via Facebook. Conference organizer Emma Brady was distraught to read that her marriage was over when he updated his status on the site to read: “Neil Brady has ended his marriage to Emma Brady.”

Last year a 28-year-old woman ended her marriage after discovering her husband had been having a virtual affair with someone in cyberspace he had never met. Amy Taylor 28, split from David Pollard after discovering he was sleeping with an escort in the game Second Life, a virtual world where people reinvent themselves.

Around 14 million Britons are believed to regularly use social networking sites to communicate with old friends or make new ones. The popularity of the Friends Reunited website several years ago was also blamed for a surge in divorces as bored husbands and wives used it to contact old flames and first loves.

The UK’s divorce rate has fallen in recent years, but two in five marriages are still failing according the latest statistics. Mr. Keenan believes that the general divorce rate will rocket in 2010 with the recession taking the blame.

In the US, a sex assault victim seeking compensation faces the prospect of her MySpace and Facebook pages being produced in court. In Texas, a driver whose car was involved in a fatal accident found his MySpace postings (“I’m not an alcoholic, I’m a drunkaholic”) part of the prosecution’s case.

From Los Angeles to Lowestoft, thousands of social network site users have lost their jobs – or failed to clinch new ones – because of their pages’ contents. Police, colleges and schools are monitoring MySpace and Facebook pages for what they deem to be “inappropriate” content. Online security holes and users’ naivety are combining to cause privacy breaches and identity thefts. And what all this, and more, adds up to is this: online social networking can seriously damage your life.

Consumer report survey, finds that 7.5 million Facebook users are younger than 13 in age. That’s in violation of company’s terms of service and that more than 5 million were ten and younger. So please be careful who you are talking to or who you think you are talking to.

Facebook and all these on line social sites are creating a lot of marital problems including divorce. United States is twelfth of the top twenty countries with the highest divorce rate with forty nine percent.  We need to rethink and listen to people that are able to help make relationships work. It is either go into a marriage with a fifty/ fifty chance or learn how to make a relationship work for the long haul.  Xo Barbara Jeanne

Relationship Blues?

I watched this movie called "Valentine Blue" it had two very good actors. It was a simply movie that was nominated for an Oscar for movie of the year. It wasn't anything special but it did hit what almost every relationship and marriage goes through. First off in the movie there is a line that I often say, that women want these expectation from the men they are with, and when a man sees a woman they fall or know instantly she is the one and that is it for always and forever. They don't think the women are going anywhere because they said those vows. A woman on the other hand feels if a man doesn't remain the way they were they want out eventually. The main thing both men and women have to remember is that each relationship is what you make of it. In the movie the couple met when the girl was just finishing high school and the guy was working at a nursing home. They had extreme chemistry, and that connection that made them feel comfortable from the start. They decided to take the plunge and get married. Then reality hit with everyday life work, a child and most of their hopes and dreams have now become a thing of the past. Put on the top shelf collecting dust. Eventually those hope and dreams are thought about. What you could have done or been if you didn't jump to get married. Even if you did wait for the wedding and the family, either way your life the way you know it will never be the same. The thing is that if a couple followed a few simple steps they would be happier and might be able to live happily ever after, forever. How? You don't let go of your dreams just because you are married. For instance you wanted to be in a band. You might not be able to do that any more, but you certainly should take time to play your instrument. Even form a garage band to jam with a few friends. If your dream was to dance, take dance classes or teach a few dance classes if you are able. You may not be able to be a doctor like you wanted yet, but don't through away the dream. At some point you may be able to go back to school. Allow your hopes and dreams to exist. Don't think just because you have children you have to become so boring that you don't enjoy one another. Take time to have a picnic together even if it is in the back yard or house. Sit and listen to your favorite music together with your favorite drink. Slow dance or you can be silly and try the dancing with the star routines. I did this and it was fun and silly, we laughed as i tried to flip over his back. It makes you feel connected and builds trust to know your man has you and will try his hardest not to drop you. Let's go back you have to keep your hopes and dreams alive. You got to have fun and the last one is how you treat your mate. Do not talk down to them, don't speak to them as if they are children and remember you are equals in this relationship. You speak to each other with kindness, care and love. Yes you will get mad at the other but don't hit below the built, these are things that you can forgive but don't forget. Eventually it becomes the beginning to the end. Where you may go into the next relationship and have the same problems with others until both parties of this relationship realize that you can't be selfish, unloving or down right mean. You need to show tenderness and love that goes a long way to make it to your always and forever.  XO Barbara Jeanne

Do You Really Know Who You Are Talking To? (Online Dating Satistics)

Online dating is the number one way of meeting people. The choice that we think might find us a honey, may not be the most successful way. Satistics show 20 million people try on line dating atleast once a month. Their is an estimated 306,o53,538 people in the United States. 94,876,000 people pay for online dating but the free dating sites seem to be the more populor choice after failing on the paid sites. Also, people who have tried the paid sites and failing to meet the right person turn to the free sites. A site called plenty of fish has made a big splash in the online dating scene. People still seem to come out unsuccessful. About 10% or more are scammers and have no intentions of ever meeting anyone. 30% of women have sex on the first date with the men they meet on line. Although the men like having sex, they don't want this woman for long term. In most cases it ruins the chances to moves into a long term relationship, at best it gets a few more dates. Men admit to lying about income, height and age. Women admit to lying aboutage, weight and body type. Men are most interested in woman apperance, positive attitude and intelligence. Women are most interested in mens apperance, finaces and excitement. Only 17% of people who meet online will make it to a long term relationship, including marriage. 33% of people end up on a second date. 33% of people that meet do not form a relationship and 33% give up internet dating. Between 2009 and 2010 there was a 15% increase of online dating nationwide. The reason why online dating doesn't work is because people are not up front and honest about themselves and when the two people meet and things come out, it is the end at the beginning. The most serious problem that happens on every site, even facebook is that the person you are talking to on the other end may be completely a different person then who they say the are. I have heard of people being engaged, married their spouse in the next room as they are online with another talking intimate and sexual. Their are people that act as they are going to meet and they keep stringing you along talking on the internet on a pending date that never seems to happen. When talking to a potential date try to get the date within a week. If they seem to keep putting the date off move on. If they call then take it from there. Don't hang on to a person for months because good chance the date is not going to happen. Lastly if you feel something is not right chances are you are right and let it go. Good Luck and remember to always keep it safe when meeting. xo Barbara Jeanne