Treat the Right Person Important

So today is the big day, the big game. The wives are making all the fixings to either have a super bowl party, or maybe some good eating for the family and friends during the game. Men remember who is important the one who went to the store and is putting this feast together, so you can enjoy your day of football. Yes, we woman like the game. You might even have a diehard girlfriend, maybe even a wife that loves the game as much as you. Although, most woman, if you offered a hundred dollar shopping spree, I do think they would take door number...well the shopping spree. Most women I know either came from a family that like the sport and the love of the game is passed down. Other ladies seem to start liking the sport, amazingly the same team as well, when they meet that guy they adore. Either way, most girlfriends learn quickly it is one way to bond with their guy. Wives have more of a voice. Men are so excited for the day, betting on the game, bets I'm sure a lot of their wives don't even know about. Then they do their ritual, to hopefully make their team win. For some this is not even their team, just heck, let me pick one that I like for the super bowl. For the girls, we are all excited; Black Eye Peas should put on a great half time show. Yet men have more enthusiasm for this game then spending time with their girlfriends and wives. It is okay that you have so many thrills, devotion for the game. For something...but you should show this same emotion for your girl. Men imagine, if you dress up for her, not bet on her. That you're going to get lucky, but put that energy into your honey. Imagine how happy you would make her. As I said in my other article, just something for you men to think about...These sports wouldn't help you in time of need. If and when you are sick and down on your luck, in need of some money, these guys that you root for wouldn’t help. Would you be able to call up these team members you feel so close with? Ask then for some extra cash. Do you even know their numbers, these guys that you say you love with such passion? You do see where I am going. These ladies that you complain about would do anything for you to make you happy. Even watch your sports, for some of us woman, it is a yearlong event. So next time your just about to pat your girl on the butt, to get you a drink. Why don’t you rub her back and tell her how wonderful she is....I only speak the truth...Men I do hold up on your end, for you as well, so...listen up..XO Barbara Jeanne

Men Don't You Want to Make Your Woman Happy?

Although I have come down on the ladies for their bitching and nagging. I have to say you men can really ruin a good thing. You sure want us woman. You wiii do just about anything... hi and low to get that woman that you can't seem to get off your mind. I had a guy drive an hour just to see if I was in a bar he saw me a week prior. I wasn't, but he happened to go to the next bar. Weird, but I happened to be there and we ended up going out for six good uears. He is the guy I was telling you ladies about in last nights article. So men you will track down a woman, put you best foot forward to win her heart, only to let her heart drop so fast, she won't be even be able to catch it. So why all this work to get all lazy on us woman. I know woman can nag and sometimes take the fun out of it, but you need to be patient with us, just as much as you did when you were trying to get that first kiss, or alittle something something more...So next time your little lady ask, please do. Next time she wants, please give. Next time should be the last time she should have to ask for the same thing over and over again. The garbage is there daily. She is available daily for you to give her a hug a kiss, or to ask her how is she doing, ask her how are you feeling. Oh yeah, that would a little thing you do..it is called... communicate. I said it before and I will say it again...Happy wife, equals happy life. Give this a try and if she is still all mad and ragging then you need to say...I try every day. How can I make you happy. Some people you can make happy, others you can't but make it a point for you to know. xo Barbara Jeanne

Choices of Life

Throughout your life you have had many choices, different paths to venture down. When you came to a fork in the road did you always pick the right choice? If you look back out your life, are you happy with the decisions you have made. Do they still even matter? Most of them probably don't. I'm sure there may be a few, like a first love or crush, still somewhere in the back of your mind. If you had a chance would you do things the same way, or would choose to do things differently. Would you have gone to college, or maybe you would have, but would have chosen a different career. Would you have the same friends, same boyfriend? Would you marry the same person? We do have more choices then we sometimes think. But yet we hear. I had no other choice. We always have had many choices in life since we could walk and talk. We had a choice who we played with, most of the time, especially as we got older. The choice to do your homework, or even to go to school. As you get older we get bigger choices to use that credit card when you have no money in the bank. Even bigger, the choices do right from wrong. We have so many choices in our life. Yet we still find reason to complain. Not happy about something. Husbands to damn lazy or a wife that nags up a storm. Children don't listen. You still have the choice to stay or leave. But yet you stay and say, once again... I have no other choice, but you do. We always seem to find reason to complain. We should love life as long as we are healthy. To have healthy children, a healthy family and friends, things are beautiful. What we should be or act seem quite different than how we behave. At times we don't seem to appreciate much. I will tell you one thing, take away good health and you have nothing. You can do what you can to be healthy but if you are not healthy it leaves you with the feeling of not only depression, a feeling of doom. Which at this point you know you don't have a choice? So next time you start to complain, how bad your life is, remember you have a choice to make your happiness. Don't wait until your choices truly do run out. Life is like a box of chocolates, you don't know what you'll get, but it's your choice... don't waste them until you get to the yucky ones that you bite and put back! xo Barbara Jeanne

Think Before You Lose a Good Thing

If you are in a relationship that is failing and you know it. Let today be the first day on its way back to improving it, to a healthy happy relationship. How? Let go of all the negativity that you have been holding onto. Next, you need to take time to relflect on some of the good times you two had. Then go to your partner and talk. Tell them, things have not being going in a positive direction and before we go down further closer to breaking up, it is important to me that we try our best to mend and repair our relationship. Saying these words will let your partner know how much you do care and hopefully will take time to reflect on the good times as well. Do you really want to let go of what you have and move on. Is your relationship worth saving. Every relationship is worth saving, especially if you have children, or married. If you are married, that is reason enough. Unless their is abuse or someone has been unfaithful, most other things should be easier to over come, with time and love.  Relationships that two people are compatible and click on the level to esculate are rare. If you do find this kind of relationship, then chances are you won't find another as easy. It is easy to find someone to lust over. Maybe to crush over for a period of time but that fades. There are very few that will make it to the point of trying the always and forever. So keep that in mind next time you want to give up and bail. To hear woman nag and for men to pretend you don't hear and walk away. Either one is annoying and bugs the s*** out of me when I hear people doing this. Say something once, then it is you choice what you want to do next. Men you are just as annoying if you would do it, woman wouldn't have to nag. It becomes a chain reaction. So to both genders stop it and take time to communicate with kind words, it will get you alot further. No one wants to be told what to do and no one wants to be ignored. Start thinking your relationship is worth saving, and start doing things to improve it. If you can't remember what that might be. Act as you did when you first met. You may not be able to pretend you don't know each other, but if you have that much appreciation for each other as you do when you first met. It is a good start back to recoving what you had...a good thing... a good relationship! If you don't at least try, there will alwasys be that doubt, when you go out and realize what's out there. It will leave you thinking twice. Turn around before it is too late...XO Barbara Jeanne

Be Positive

One of the greatest truth I have discovered is that my thougths create my reality. That is a great reason to be positive. Things happen in your life because of the thoughts you project. To change what happens to you, you must change your thoughts. Not only are you your own human projector, you are the star, writer, producer, director and editor of your personal real life docomentary. For me discoveing that my thought produce the events in my life is right up there with the discovery of fire. It is real freedom. You've heard " Thoughts are things", as man thinks, so it will be. Like attract like and so on. You can hear positive will create positive a thousand times, but it won't work until you begin to work it. Make a commitment to yourself and begin to be positive. Until you put away those negative thoughts and words, you won't have true happiness. You need to stop saying all those negative thoughts to people when you think them. You need to learn to control them, and let them go. You will then start to control your mind to think positive. To think what is right and wrong. Realize what is positive and negative coming from your mouth. Once you learn this, you will become more positive and and positive actions will happen in your life. In every aspect, in all of your relationships. So don't let your feelings get in the way of your thoughts. Things happen in your life because of your thoughts you project...So make a commitment to yourself and begin to be positive. Start today! XO Barbara Jeanne