It's The Small Things That Count!

Make it a point to say I love you to your partner everyday in the morning and every night before bed. Inbetween does wonders for the relationship as well. Hold your partners hand, make it a point to touch them with care. Listen to them when they speak to you. Always have your partners back, and never leave them hanging feeling like they are on their own. If you hurt your partners feelings, even though you might not think you have, it won't kill you to say two simple words "I'm sorry". Compliment them, let them know you care. Most of all kiss them with passion and make them feel so loved. xo Barbara Jeanne

What Works for You as a Couple is What Is Important!

So many people feel that they have to follow the norm of what is expected for a couple. I'm actually very old fashion, but I have my wild child side and that is what I bring to a relationship. I believe that dinner should be on the table for your man, lunch made, clothes ready. I know it may sound sickening but that is how I was raised, but then I have the other side of me that believes a relationship you need to have kick ass fun. You need a balance to a relationship to be healthy. If you want to have tv dinners and go out every night but make it to work and it works for you, go for it. If you two as a couple want to get married, or don't it is your business. If you want children or where you want to live is your choice. As long as the two of you are happy and you are not hurting anyone, then it is your perrogative. You don't need to keep up with the Jone's to say you are successful as a couple. You need to be happy and as long as it works for you then roll with it. If two people join together and enjoy each other that they are each others best friend, love to spend time together then you got a good thing. So be you as a person, be you as a couple and if your happy, you are doing something right. Don't listen to what anyone says but who you say I love to each day and sleep with each night. Enjoy your life and your partner, couples would  kill to have a happy love filled relationship. XO Barbara Jeanne 

Does Your Partner Lift You Up?

Your partner should lift you up, to make you feel like a princess or king. You should not make the person you are with feel insecure. Telling them they aren't good enough. Why do that to the person you say you love. You have every right to a beautiful life. You should never make you mate feel not good enough. So many couple fight dirty, saying things that hurt below the belt. Although that is not right at all, some couples or should I say people do it daily. Why? I'm not sure. It could be that they might be insecure themselves and want to make their partner feel less than best. The saying "behind every good man is a great woman". Any couple should make it point to say positive comment to lift your mate, not knock them till they are down and bleeding. It doesn't have to only be physical, mentally is just as bad. Woman, your man should make you feel beautiful to go in the buff, strut your stuff. You are pretty, beautiful, a work of art. Remember, you don't have to be a beauty queen, just be beautiful you! Xo Barbara Jeanne

What If?

What if you loved someone but didn't take the time to show them. What if you loved someone but you had so much anger and you took out your anger on them. So they didn't know how much you cared or loved them. What if you loved someone but you were so busy that you never took the time to say three simple words "I love you". What if you loved someone more then anything but took them for granted...People do this everyday, with their lovers, best friends and family. We even do this to our mothers and fathers not thinking that we may have hurt their feelings because we know we will see them again. We don't think twice if we will see our husband, wife, brother, sister, best friend...what if we never got the chance to show and tell them how much you did care and love them and it was too late...what if you never saw them again. You may not realize you have been behaving in this manner, so check yourself and take time to love those that you do. You never know when you won't have the chance because the are no longer here. You don't want to be have to be telling them this when you are kneeling down saying you nightly prayers. You never know, do you? xo Barbara Jeanne xo

We Need To Stop Judging!

We need to stop judging people for their mishaps or for those less fortunate. Yes I say it is a plus to stay fit and take care of yourself but we go way overboard with these young stars that most of us have children and we would hate to have our children hurt or spoken to like that. True they put themselves out their but we are the adults and what our children have to look up to. Everything that you teach them, tell them, will be solid in their brains forever. Parents talk about the neighbors, how this child is this way, that child is that way. The mom is gaining weight and the dad is never home, he must be having an affair. How can our children become healthy adults if we has parents aren't being the best roll models. Gossiping and judging everyone from television to their school friends and their parents, neighbors and the list goes on. Yes we should say what we feel in the privacy of your own home but please try to make sure you are careful who is listening. You are teaching your children it is okay to speak badly about another, to judge. As I know it we have only one judge and we will meet them on our judgment day and hopefully you have checked yourself to make sure you have yourself in tact. God Bless xo Barbara Jeanne