You Are Beautiful!

Although I know I do preach that it is a good practice in your relationship to try to take care of yourself. That taking care of yourself is an important asset for a successful relationship. I do not feel anyone has the right to put you down, make you feel insecure. Who is anyone to judge who you are, and no one should judge a book by the cover. You don't have to be anyone else but yourself, you may not be a beauty queen, all you need to be is your beautiful self. Who has the right to say you aren't beautiful, who has the right to judge you. Especially those people that are in your life that mean something to you..your family, your partner. Anybody that you feel is important to you. You may allow them to influence you, how you feel about yourself. What you should be getting from them is nothing less than encouragement. If they are putting you down, or making you not feel good about yourself, then all they are is just a diamond in the rough that needs to look at themselves. You have every right to feel beautiful, don't let anyone tell you or make you feel you don't have potential, you need not pass a test. Remember what they should be telling you, is that you can do it, and make you feel as if you are the best. No one is perfect and although you should try to be the best you can be, no one especially your family of partner should make you feel anything less than beautiful.

What to do If You Want Out

So you are miserable and sad and you don't know what to do you have tried everything to get across to your partner to try and work things out. It may get good for a few weeks or days but then it tends to go back to what is was, bad. You feel like you are about to lose it. All you can think about is how unhappy you are. You try over and over to get through to this person you once had such high hopes with, big dreams, but all you seem to get back is no emotion, a sense of coldness. What do you do, if you feel doomed like there is no way out? First off know that you can get out and this situation is not going to last forever. You may need time and a plan, but you need to get started. How do you do this first off, you need money so see how to get funds. If you have children, you can try through the state and find a job preferable a job that you like that will bring in decent funds. You can't be too picky at first, remember the most important thing right now is to get out. You always will have time to work out the rest. Next find a place where you can go. Either a relative, or save up and rent a place, even if it may be small. Remember this is just the beginning of what will be your new and improved happy life. It may take a bit of time but you will achieve it. Last cut ties with the ex. If you have children, you will have to deal with the ex, but make it minimal. Remember you only have one life, there are no do over's, so live like you got one shot, because basically you do. xo Barbara Jeanne

Spice up you Sex Life....

After writing my article that I posted today, my television was on in the back round. A show was on with a couple that were in the grocery store and the husband saw an old friend that  was a girl from school. Leaving his wife feeling uncomfortable. His wife went out and got herself all done up and came in looking hot. He appreciated and enjoyed the intimacy of having sex with his wife, dressed like a sex kitten. After they were done laying in bed he said this is great, we should take time to dress up to spice things up. To shave and take care of themselves for each other. She felt down still because she was now still a bit insecure. So what did he do, he came to her rescue as a fireman. What did she do let him rescue her and enjoyed it. What I am trying to say is, you need those nights where you take the time to get all done up and have fun. You can have those days that you can be a pajama mama, or bed head dad. Take the time to surprise your lover, doesn't matter if you are a man or woman, get dress and spice it up. XO Barbara Jeanne

Don't Ever Think You Are Less Than Perfect...

There are the people that have the confidence to think highly of themselves. There are others that aren't quite confident. For reasons, may be the way they were raised, may have been picked on in school, or just the way their brain works. They feel they are not beautiful, not good enough, don't deserve to feel pretty. They may be beautiful on the inside, not realizing that beauty comes from within. They look in the mirror and what they see is, that they look so ugly, so fat. They don't like the freckles on their nose. Their butt is to big, too small. No two people are alike, not even identical twins. There may be one small thing that makes them different, but they are as well. Remember, natural beauty is a gift and should treated as one. It can be taken from you at any given moment, so that leaves us with the beauty that comes from within. Next time you look in the mirror. don't look for your flaws that you think everyones sees or may tell you. Look at those beautiful eyes you have and realize beauty is only skin deep. The ultimate gift is the ability to see, to walk, talk and the list goes on. If you look at it, there are so many precious gift we get before we get to the outside beauty. So look in the mirror and see the person that can sing, paint, write, tell jokes. The kind person that is good with old people. Remember, it's not what is on the outside it's what is inside that counts. xo Barbara Jeanne

I'm Sorry

These are words that are so powerful yet people don't like saying them. Not because of the words, but what they usually mean. That you have done something wrong and it takes a big person at times to admit this. Many times in relationship, our pride and the fact of how mad we can get with our partners holds us back from saying these two short but powerful words. Sometimes until it is too late. Saying sorry doesn't always make things right but it shows that you care. If there is a situation in your life with someone you know you have done wrong, " Say your Sorry" and it might save a relationship and it really does the heart wonders. xo Barbara Jeanne