Do You know who THEY are?

"They" say there is no such thing as LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT! Who are "they"? I have never met "they", "they" have no other names but "they". Why are "they" considered such experts, when there are no faces or names, just "they"! "They" do not know what" they" are missing! Who needs opinions of "they" that do not exist, except in opinion polls!

I found this quote on the internet and thought that is was quite interesting. Interesting in a good way. Many people giving advice do not know the person they are talking to, the person that they are trying to give advice to and help. They just keep talking without a pause. So I wanted to take a moment to explain what I am trying to do. I tell you real stories. Things that I have gone through, real problems I have heard.  I would love to be able to hopefully to get to know each and every person to some extent if I can. To show you who I am and to be a person and not a they. Books, articles, columns, do not know your situation. They don't feel your pain, in fact chances are there would be no way to talk to them, ask them, get personally with them. We listen to polls because usually they are done by Universities or Major Resources, but for some reason it doesn't hit home. People only listen when in need and still they do what they want instead of following, the relationship information source they read to help. Who are they? Do we know them? Maybe the problem is that the people that "they" refers to, are unknown. That is why I am letting you into my life to show you who I am. I made my website like a mini magazine. My articles are a part of me, I feel deeply about them and I want to help people through them. They come from the heart and through years of experience. Fitness is part of my passion. I want to teach people that wouldn't normally work out, for the people who don't get up and go to the gym. That working out does not have to be structure o benefit from it. You can have fun moving anyway you desire, but move. The pictures I have posted I am proud of. Some are silly, happy and yes, sexy. I want this to hopefully inspire some people to be able to dress up, feel sexy and over all feel good about themselves. We need to be comfortable and love yourself to be able to love others. In return, all this process will help your relationship. So in closing, through my website I hope to express who I am so I will no longer be considered a They, but Barbara Jeanne.....xo

Everythng Works Out for the Best

In my experience, everything works out to enhance our lives. Even if it appears to be distinctly the opposite! All we need to do is trust in this natural law as an unfailing truth, and have faith that change can never threaten who we deeply and truly are inside. Our suffering is caused by the learned reaction of fearing the inevitable changes in life rather than embracing it.

You can come through the worst of hardships with your life better than ever before. You can triumph over your troubles. You will find in every apparent disaster the seeds of new choices and an incredible future.

I have been shown innumerable times that my faith in supreme truth is completey well-founded. But I've also had to take commited action to get there, learning from experience along the way. My faith in the eventual outcome provides me with the confidence to accept each chapter in my life story as vital to my growth and journey toward the goal, no matter how difficult that episode may be. xo Barbara Jeanne

Jealousy

The green eyed monster. You see it everywhere, with almost everyone at one time or another. I see it all over the sites. It is a horrible trait but it seems to be one of populations biggest. You should be happy when your coworker gets a promotion. Usually most people are secretly thinking it should have been them, or they didn't deserve it. Instead of thinking, if I work hard, that can be me. If it should of been you and for some reason and it wasn't maybe the man upstairs has a bigger and better plan if you allow. By getting jealous and angry, only gets the man upstair a bit annoyed with you. How about when your best friend starts dating a great girl/guy, your are already hoping for the break up. When we see someone wearing a sexy litlle dress, right away the claws come out, " that looks so trashy, she must be easy ". It's okay that it is all over tv and magazines and those people we idolize, because they are not a threat to our emotions, or our lives. If these people were over weight wearing the same things, it would go unnoticed. Some might say they shouldn't be wearing that. We should be encouraging our friends, be happy for the co worker. Work out, get help to get to wear that little black dress you hoped to be able to wear for years. We create our lives. We are the writer, director and star of our lives. We can make anything we want happen if we strive for it. It's like baseball, you practice and practice. You swing the bat over and over, sooner or later, you' ll hit that ball out of the park. That is how you should look at life, that you can achieve what you want. By being jealous is the last way to get it. It just pisses the big guy off. So look at each situation with love and a kind heart and better thing will be waiting for you, and will come your way. Being jealous that someone has more money. Got the raise at work. Looks better in a bathing suit, and is comfortable to wear that itsy bitsy teenie weenie yellow poka dot bikini. So what. Let people live their lives however they choose. We are suppose to be a country of freedom of speech, but we are sure uptight. Let down your hair and live...and who cares about anyone else that's not you...mind your own business. Didn't your mother teach you..."If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all. Enjoy life,  and live! xo Barbara Jeanne

Sex In The City

If you haven't had the opportunity to watch this show ( Sex In The City), you should. If you did, I'm sure if you are a women, it was rated pretty high, in the must see TV, when it was on. It ran for six seasons. In this span of time the show express to women, how to get them to realize that it is okay to like sex. It is okay to mess up and pick yourself up. To cry when heart broken, laugh in the comfort of each other and grow as women. The show had four very different but real personality. Carrie the writer, that anything she wore looked just so cute and right. She also made it a point dressing your best and taking control was a good thing. Miranda, the conservative lawyer, uptight but a good friend. Told it how it was, and rolled with her own cash. Charolette, prim and proper, the hopeless romantic. The one that falling in love is what she lived for. Last we had Samantha high upscale power job, made her own dough. Loved sex and was the strong support of the group, always without judgement. Why am I writting about a show that is no longer on. The point is yes they are just characters, but in real life it is so important to live as who you are! xo Barbara Jeanne

It Ain't Nutin But A Relationship? (Published Article)

People today are nonchalant about being in a relationship and what the definition really means. Well here is what it said when I looked it up... The fact of being related, connection, involvement. Lastly, a relation between two entities which is mutually beneficial for the participants of the relationship. This means that boths parties in the relationship should benefit equally as one another. It should be that thess two entities need each other to survive and prosper.  It may also be a relationship where it is a zeros sum relationship, where one player clearly benefits from the other (typically consumes the other). The other is taking all their time to figure out, why they are doing all the giving and their partner is doing all the taking. So maybe that is the big problem that is going on. What I see and hear from almost every relationship, their is the person that is the giver and the person that is a taker. A relationship has to be mutually. At one time one might be stronger and do the giving and the weaker do the taking. You cannot survive one person be selfish enough to take, take, take with no giving. The person giving, gets so used to giving they start to become the caretakers in each relationship they get into and that is not healthy. Mentally or physically this can make you sick. In order for a relationship to survive happily forever it has to be mutual. Work as a team. When one is down, the other is their to pick them up and do what needs to get done. Vise versa! If you are not ready for the commitment of these terms, you shouldn't put the pressure on you or the hurt you may cause someone else, when you can't deliver what the terms of a relationship should be. If this is the case keep your relationships short term. If you are not ready, you might be better off. The survival of a long term relationship would be at risk if it meant that the other person may not survive. Keep it to casual dating, until you are ready to give. XO Barbara Jeanne