Right Or Wrong? You Tell Me

If you follow my articles, I wrote about a couple that the guy was cheating on his wife, She was the perfect suburban wife, or though she thought. Until she got the news flash that she was no fun and he wanted fun. I am not one to judge and this is not what this article is about. The couple talked and as of now, the once was suburban housewife is living with her mom and the soon to be ex is playing house with his new young girl friend. Let me explain the they are all in their twenties except the new girlfriend may be closer to eighteen. Anyway, let us go on. The soon to be ex wife is now hanging out with a gentleman and they are having the time of their lives, she says he is just what she needed. They even took a trip and he brought his kids and she brought her two, the had a great time. The only problem with this new friendship is that he is married with kids. She is not seeing what deeply hurt her, she is now doing to another woman. Somehow in her head, she is doing no wrong. Although everyone from her mom, friends and the wife think, will know, something is not right with this picture. Are we so desperate that we have no morals, values, care of other people that we just ruthlessly do as we please. Do we understand that we shouldn't judge, that is not our place. Although there is a higher power that does judge us. There also is a thing we call karma and when it's bad it will hit you like a ton a bricks. When it is coming around to hit you on your ass. We need to realize and think, don't do to others, what you would not want done to you! XO Barbara Jeanne

Put Your Hand On The Man, That You Love

Men are very visual as well as physical. That's why they like sports as well as your victoria secret magazine. They fantasize about these woman that don't exactly look as they do before these airbrushing experts hit this picture until they are perfect. Men still think what they see is what they get. So why not be your mans fantasy. The good thing is that one encounter that is good will replay over and over in your mans head. Now if you continue, no...not every night but here and there. You want to surprise your man. You will become you mans sex kitten. Men aren't picky on perfection, they love when woman are excited to be touched and when you them. They love when you put something on that turns their head with a yea man. Find the inner beauty in you, put something sexy on and get physical. XO Barbara Jeanne 

Give and You Shall Receive

In todays society people have become so self centered that everything revolves around them. When you call someone, is it to talk about yourself or are you genuinely concerned in knowing how the person you are calling really is. Most times I get a phone call it seems to go something like this " how are you " without a reply, they are off and running about what is really bothering them. Usually it tends to be relationship problem, their friend did something to bug them and they want your approval that they were right. Oh, we can't forget the family member that is driving them crazy. I realized this after one of my professors in college said this in class. From then on, I took notice and he was absolutely right. It's in my nature to be the caretaker and to give advice so I am glad to help people. Those that you call may have their own burdens or troubles to think about, and can't deal to take on others. When I asked people this question "if they mind that their friends constantly call to talk about themselves" their answer was, yes. It is fine if it is a once in awhile kind of thing, or iit is an impotant situation, but to do it everytime you pick up the phone is annoyimg. That makes it an interior motive, it is not right. Take time to ask people how they are and truly listen, you will get back what you give. You can't not give anything  and expect to get back evreything. It just doesn't work that way. So next time you pick up the phone or have a night with your friends, make sure you balance out, listening to them as well as you talk. The better you are as a person, you will recieve much more in return. xo Barbara Jeanne

So Afraid to Get Married?

I went to a seminar on relationships and the person giving the lecture said the majority of people, especially younger people, men, and the people have already that been married, especially men are reluctant to take the walk down the aisle. It's a sad thing when men and women are meant to be together. That is how God set it to be. For so many reason. For men to nuture off of women, and for men to protect  the women. As well as the big one, to keep the world going to have children. The biggest thought, was to love one another out of love comes growth in so may ways. Men continue to learn from the woman they mate with as men tend to the nest. Something has gone terribly wrong. There had been so many divorces, bad relationships, bad break ups and the big one broken hearts. People no longer look at getting married with great enthusiasm as we once did. Leaving men not wanting to ask a woman to get married, so tht in turns slows done the process of commitment, the white dress and the walk down the aisle. Younger people are seeing that the older people, including their parents that didn't make it for always and forever. So where it once was the normal age of 16 to 18 in the fifties, to 18 to 21 in the eighties. 21 to 28 throughout the ninties till 2000. Leaving us now in 2011 somewhere in the late, late 20's till the early to mid thirties, to get married. Yet when people find love including men and women their heart beats faster, their day is brighter and their life is a whole lot better because of this person you fell in love with. So you got them but you won't popped the question, so many times you lose good woman to another man. Just because of satistics and what all the money men say they lose in a divorce. These tv shows, movies, that shows that the man loses everything, all his money when he divorces. Instead of looking at marriage as the glass being half empty, why not look at the glass as completely full. That your union with the person you choice to take that walk with, is the only one you will ever be with. From day one, you will put all of your love and effort into it. As well as woman, it can't be that if it doesn't work out there is always divorce, that was what the majority of the poll said woman said. That divorce is not an option. Your only option is to stay married. Unless abuse of course. What would you do if that became a law. A life binding contract, that once you married and you signed those papers, you were binded for life. Would marriage exist or would it become obsolete. I would hope that wouldn't be a case. Last but not least all the marriages that went sour and you were totally heart broken so you don't, won't commit again. Feel like it is best to stay alone, that is extremely sad and pathetic, their are so many people to love, get out there or get on line, whatever is your fancy and do something. For you young single guys, commit and talk the walk, it could be the most rewarding thing you will ever do! XO Barbara Jeanne

He Loves Her, She Loves Him, it's a Situation You'll Never Win

For those that read up on my articles, I once told you about a girl that was the perfect suburban housewife and mother of two. To the point she was being controlled and losing her identity. Her husband didn't like her to go out and she also had to dress conservative. The perfect wife got cheated on by her two timing no good of a husband. Not only because he cheated, he was parting up a storm, reck their car and wasn't bring home the money. Everyone was telling this perfect so called wife, but she was sweeping it under the rug along with all of their other problems. So he got a night time job as a janitor and fell in love with his co worker. A girl with no morales, I would guess. That has got to be the lowest to take someones elses husband. You might say you can't take someone, they chose to go. You can say..these words if you run into someone that is married and wants to be with you..NO! Anyway he doesn't try to hide it for long. He practically was happy when he got caught. Now he thought he had every mans dream a wife and a mistress. Going around bragging as if he was the man. To me he is acting like a little boy in need of a whopping. At first she goes a long with this disturbing game and her friends and family are so disgusted, they get her to see the light and she says no more. The only problem is that the husband really lost it and thinks it is okay to bring another woman into their house and lay down in their bed. The wife freaked out and the two girls duke it out with the husband standing ring side. What a mess this is turning into, and the wife losing the man and the fight getting a big chuck of hair taken from her head. So what does the husband do console both, one the night of the incident, the other the following day. the mess gets bigger and dirtier. The suburban housewife now becomes friends with a married man that is wining and dining her. Making her feel all special..well isn't that special..Now his wife knows about it and this suburban housewife is putting this down and out ...oh I forgot to tell you..this down and out housewife is preganant, and in the same predicament the suburban housewife was in. Thinking there is nothing wrong...that he grabs her butt, spanks her ass and kisses her lips...she says this is exactly what she needs right now, someone to bump up her confidence, while she is tearing down this mans wife. Doesn't anyone have morals these day. All those people that are dating married men and woman should be ashamed of themselves. Even if you are talking to a married man on the computer and you are having anon line relationship, it is wrong. Although you do have to remember what goes around comes around and karma is a bitch, especially when it is bad karma that is coming back to bite you on your ass. As the saying goes two wrongs don't make a right. What she is doing is wrong. What her husband is doing is wrong and the poeple that the brought into this situation are wrong. So if you look at this situation that happens more than you would think, and you might be saying, you have to stay for the kids, or you have nowhere to go. Following this situation where in a few days there will be an intervention, this whole chaotic situation will start to crumble, until it is all completely unraveled. Stop and think, before you act. Is it worth throwing away your whole life and family. Some people try to have it both and it never works. So before you jump into the pool of craziness...think! XO Barbara Jeanne