Love Is Not For Just Valentine's Day

So the day is coming quickly...Valentine's Day. The day of romance, flowers, chocolate, and lingerie. It is a day more inportant for woman, I would guess. Hey.... men if you are digging the day just as much, that is super cool, your girl is lucky. For the most part, it's a day devoted to let your woman know, "I love you". Although, it is a day set aside for love, it also is for some to say "Im sorry"  and, to make up for all those boo boo's you did men during the year. Or a day just to make your little lady feel special. Although a special day, you should take a few minutes everyday to express your love. Doing so woman, would appreciate that hug you give her when you come home. Men, ask your pretty little lady "how was her day". Ladies it is just important for you to show these gestures back. It can not be a one way cycle. Woman should be excited to see their man when they come home with a nice embrace. Take just a few minutes to touch base in a caring way. These simple gesture will go along way. I know some of you people are saying, " I've been married for so long that just isn't happening anymore. If never to late to show an old dog new tricks. So begin and end the day with a kiss and hugs inbetween wouldn't hurt. You have one life, enjoy it. Learn to. I hear so many people say "this is my life, geez, you only got one to be so miserable? Enjoy what you have, or get out and make it happen. You have a week to find a new love, so get working...only kidding. If you don't have a love. Loving yourself will do..xo BARBARA JEANNE

LIFE...

There are so beautiful sayings that you hear and you see on plaques at every store out there. This is one that I feel is true and can be so fulfilling if you live by it and make the most out of life. Everyone gets magical moments but do we notice them. Do some people get more out of life, because they see the glass as half full, then half empty. So it brings me to tonights quote."Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the number of moments that take our breath away". So, if you have those moments where your hearts skips a beat. Being it could be scenery, a moment of precious times, and most magical, love. If you do have these moments, capture them, and realize how lucky you are. Life is so very precious. To walk, talk, to hear, see and most of all...to breath. Some people don't have this choice, if you do..know how blessed you are. So make sure you appreciate life, it can change in an instinct. Don't take life for granted. Live each moment as if it could be your last...breath xo Barbara Jeanne

How Easy Love Is...

I would love to see all woman be treated and feel like the queens and all the young girls like princess that we are. To feel like they are flying so high from being happy, because your man shows you he loves you that much. That you are so love and in love. That he is so romantic, he takes care of all of your neccesities. You feel he is your king. I want every man to feel they are treated like kings, or a prince for you young men. That you are praised and loved and taken care of. Not just as a partner , but a best friend and a lover. That you adore your man that much, you put him up on a pedastal. With you standing right besides him. With so much admiration. If we follow such simple rules. Our relationships would stay intact..witout a doubt and a fact! XO Barbara Jeanne

Ladies Don't You Want to be in a Good Relationship to be Wanted?

A relationship, mmm... it feels so good. I met a guy and as in all my relationships, I like to keep things fresh and flowing. Not one to bicker, I say what I have to say, make my point and period. The man either does as I ask, or not. It is your decision what to do, if they don't appease you. I found that sweetness always gets you so much farther. Anyway, as I was saying when you are in love, you want to have fun; it should not matter if you are single or married. Love is love. Fun is fun and being silly and laughing, should be a must. Not every second of course, you do know what I mean ladies. I was going out with a guy I have to say, we clicked and I was crazy about him. Our time together was wild, carefree and fun. It’s good though to keep a balance. So in the morning I would make a nice breakfast, make sure he had the paper and after we would watch some TV and maybe have a bit of fun. Time passes, our relationship grows, as does our closeness. We still maintain our fun. We would have sex anywhere and everywhere. I would dress up for him and sometimes, i forget to wear my panties.  We would sit in a restaurant and fool around under the table, like young kids without a care. He couldn't wait to come to see me. Living an hour away, he said after three years, I made him still have the want to come to see me. I want every man to feel this way about their woman. I was brought up to look good for your man and take care of him as he should you. Yes a bit old fashion, with old fashion values and ways with a twist of a wild side. I’m not talking about that meek housewife without a voice. But it is almost as if you don’t need to use it because things flow so smoothly. They want to be with you because they have a blast with you. You take care of them, praise them, love them, but you expect nothing less back in return, and if you do these things for them, they will want to do these things for you. I cannot speak for those who want to disagree, or do it half ass. You want to bitch half of the time but you want to be happy half the time. That is too damn confusing. You need to pick a personality and stick with it. I'm not saying no one should be a cuppie doll. Meaning a yes girl that is always pleasing their man but isn’t getting anything in return, this is not healthy they are being used and actually abused. A man showing his lady no emotion is not a relationship that you want. If you are mad and you have the right then have your say and let it go. You told him there is no need to go over it again and again you are not a parakeet. I have seen so many girls as soon as they talk to their husband it just starts sounding as if they are ragging. You see that couples, the ones that you see out not talking just looking around at everyone else. You can tell the lack of something missing in their relationship and no communication. Ladies, I want you to be happy. Here are a few tips. Be fun, be loving and you don't need to win the conversation or get the last word in. You also want your man to want to be around you. You want your man to have the want to see you, touch you, and be with you. I'm not saying that it makes things perfect. But you answer this question.  Are you fun to be around? Do you end up having sex out the end of an outing or fun evening, or do you usually end up in a fight or even just bored? Are you more the couple that can't wait to get home to have sex or at least cuddle, or does your man seem as he can't wait to call it a night and head to bed alone? You know that is not what a relationship is about, at least a good one. Just a thought ladies...If woman had it so figured out, there wouldn't be all these help me, my relationship sucks books out there, or in magazines monthly. We do care; there is always that one guy that has our heart, so let’s do something about it. Barbara Jeanne xo

Love has no Boundaries for Race, Gender, Gender Preference & Background

In college a young girl meets all types of people for the first time. She was always sheltered as a child, going to catholic schools her whole entire life. First year her best friend is Jewish and all her guy friends were gay. She did not judge, she loved and in return she was not judge. Especially for those that did not come out yet. She then met girls that seem interected in girls and she befriended them. They all seemed to be a happy family. No one judging one another. They went dancing, skating and shopping was their favorite. As her time went on in college, she had alot friends from all different nationalities and backgrounds. This girl with such a strict up bringing, loved anyone an everyone as if the were dear to her. She was there when her gay friends told their parents they were coming out. She as well met the man she was to married, met his family to learn she was from new jersey, he was from Vermont and that was more of a shock than to find out his sister was gay, she embraced and loved her. She attended many parties in here years at college meeting many differnt people. What she did learn was that everyone was different, but only by their personalties. Not by their nationality, back grounds or gender preference. When she got married she worked part time one Christmas at a store to make extra cash. There again she found herself having a gay best friend. She hungs out with all the guys... that were all out and would go clubbing, partying and of course shopping. Being very opened, she brought her daughter to a party. Where  she went up to her mom and asked, "why are all the boys kissing the boys". The mom replied, "because they like each other",  the little girl at the age of four replied, oh okay and turned around so natuarally, like it was nothing, a part of life. This child at the age of four was being taught, not to judge but to love. The four year olds mother and the father did not make it..yes sad to say but his sister did find a nice lady to marry. Her father at this point wa remarried with children and her step mom would not let them attend, thinking what they were doing was wrong. So off went the daughter to attend the wedding of her Aunt. Time goes by and the new step mother judges the sister for being gay. The young girl now a young lady embraces each person for who they are as did her mother. Not for their race or back ground. She as well has a sister and a brother from her fathers union to her step mother. She was taught nothing but love and she accepted the brother and sister as full siblings not half. When her brother was ready to come out, his sister was the first one to know, accept and encourage him. Love is from the heart, not whos heart it belongs to. We need to accpet and love everyone. No matter, race, gender, gernder preference and background. Love is love. When you can love with no boudaries you will get an over abundance of love in return. The person is me...and my daughter! xo Barbara Jeanne