My mom carried me for nine months. She felt sick for those months with nausea, and then she watched her feet swell & her skin stretch. She cried from pain and emotional wreck at times. She struggled to climb stairs, she got breathless quickly and she even suffered many sleepless nights. She then went through excruciating pain to bring me into this world. Then, she became my nurse, my chef, my maid, my chauffeur, my biggest fan, my teacher & my best friend. She’s struggled for me, cried over me, hoped the best for me and prayed for me. Most of us take our mom for granted.

Men & Women Find it So Hard to Be in Love but We Want It So Badly?

Since college I have been asking everyone, why do you like this one and not that one? Why did you break up, you two where perfect together. Why this and why that? I have so many answers to all my questions. Why do we make love harder than it has to be when we all so desperately to be in love. We are picky, to the point time goes by, getting older sometimes way older and I still hear people say I'm not going to settle. It may be that we put our expectations too high. I am not saying that we have to go out with everyone that asks, or someone that there is no chemistry at all. There are people you meet that you never know they might treat you wonderful. When it comes to a long term relationship you should be looking for the person that does for you, wants to do and loves you that much that will do. You don't want to win the person that was a challenge or that person that you keep putting things they do on that back burner and your burners are all filled up with their crap. You need not find Mr. or Ms. to be perfect or the most gorgeous but that person that you mesh well, have fun respect and love more each day. If you are head over heels for a person that is great but those people you pass over because they aren't to your liking, you might be pleasantly surprised if you just opened up your heart. Barbara Jeanne xo

Does True Love Really Exist? I Think So!

Whenever it may be that it is the first time that you feel you are in love, you may be young and your parents and elders may be saying, or have said this is only puppy love, this isn't real love. In fact it is the sweatiest love you may ever have. All you know is that you feel great when you are with this person and when young and in love you two are not jaded to trash the relationship into a bad situation. As we grow we get our first broken heart, first time being intimate and as we progress into young men and women we think that we can't live without the love we have for the person we are crushing so hard over. So is there real love? Absolutely! When two people meet and the sparks are just right and we get that passionate feeling for one another that we can spend the day and night without the need to venture out into the outside world, this is a good beginning. Now if we can somehow stay the person that we are this very moment then most relationship would survive but we don't or more likely can't. People change, grow and sometimes it is in two different directions. Sometimes as we get to know the person things start to bother the crap out of us. If you can focus on the good things or habits the person has, and they would do the same with you, then you two have a better chance of lasting. We pick out everything we dislike about the person, many not seeing our own flaws. If we could just keep the battle to the real important issues would be a start. Couples seem to argue about everything from the little things that annoys us to the major things that will finally take a toll on your relationship enough to bring it to an end. Before you throw your fish back into the dating pool make a check list of the good and the bad and see which one is longer. That will help you realize if it is you being overly picky or the person is not right for you. We need to stop asking everyone but ourselves what to do with our relationship. While listening to your friend that has more troubles then yourself you may lose the one that may be the right for you. So next time you are in doubt, take time to see if this person makes you happier, makes you a better person and makes you want to be with them more than anyone else. After you decided and make your choice for that always and forever remember that to achieve this goal you have to simply love. This entails making love, being the others best friend without judgment. You should want to pick this person up when they are down and most off to know at the end of the day they are there by your side and yes for better and for worse married or not. Love is love and does exist. Barbara Jeanne xo

When You're Not Sure? Don't Let Go Of A Good Thing(you might kick yourself in the long run)

When you are in a relationship and you feel as if you may not be ready, for one reason or another. You let go of someone that you know you should keep is just a sad and harmful situation in the long run. One day you will search for a person to love and here is were the sad part comes in. You may look for a person that is just like the person that you let go and spend a life time trying to seek someone to take their place. So if this situation accurse in your life instead of saying good bye to the right person, tell this person you need to take things slow or get your head together. Reassure them that they are who you want and would never want to be with out them. That would be something that you would regret. Finding someone is not the problem. Finding the one is. You want to feels butterflies but sometimes real love is way more important. That is not saying you are settling that is saying sometimes the sure thing is what is real. Xo Barbara Jeanne

Hopes and Dreams...Good Medicine

When we are young filled with our hopes, dreams and wishes yet to come. Our hopes are high and we are pretty positive what we wish for will one day will come to be. As we grow older we come to realize we have to work for most of our dreams. Very few of us are that lucky to have them drop out of the sky onto our lap. As the year’s roll by, we take what we get and assume that is as good as it gets and settle. When you let go of those hopes of reaching your goals, you lose a little piece of yourself. What is so sad about this situation is that our dreams fade into the back of our memory. Some stay fresh but we let go of many dreams of what we wanted and it leaves us with emptiness, a void we can’t seem to capture the essence of why we feel the way we do. Years may go by and our life may change but one thing most of us do get are bills and a job to pay them and what is left over isn’t always enough to pay for the new or old dreams we have. You have to realize we are grown but we can still enjoy and love life. You may not be able to be a Super Star, President or Ms America, but you need to hold on and to keep sight of some  of those dreams, even if they may be new ones. It is a good way to achieve our goals. Keep sight of your goals, it is what keeps life in us that makes life worth living. Xo Barbara Jeanne