What Should Love Feel Like?(Part 1)
Love seems to be so hard in today’s society. Are we making it harder than it has to be? How can we learn how to find love and when we do, have a healthy relationship? In our generation the divorce rate is very high. Most of us of the age to have a relationship have come from broken families. At times we don’t learn the loyalty needed to go the distance for a lasting relationship. We didn’t see it in our homes to bring it into our lives. Also as well, we saw fighting sometimes brutal fights putting one another down. At times our parents asking to pick their side, leaving us a bit upset and confused. Even families that may have made the distance there may have been times that they should of spilt but they choose to hang in there for one reason or another. Then we have those parents that truly loved one another and made it for the always and forever and they achieved the ultimate goal of having a soul mate and know what true love is about. They may have had their share of hard times but they love enough more than to let each other go. First off know that love is work and you don’t have to be the winner of your fights. Second pick your battles and only fight for those that you truly believe is in harm’s way of your relationship. It is no fun being in a relationship when one or both is asking, where you are going, where have you been, what have you been doing, who are you talking to, in the manner as a parent not a partner. You want to continue to be each other’s best friend, the person that you want to run to when you just have to tell someone something. You want your partner to be that person that you can be you without judgment and you want to have a blast when you are hanging out with your lover. It feels nice to have the quiet times as much as it is to laugh with them. When it comes to intimacy you want to have that wild sex as well as the slow love making. The fastest way to lose someone is beat them down by putting them down or constant fighting, they will take it for a while but then they will become resentful and downright mean. If you have children they will see this and it will continue down the line. If you want to argue do it when the children are not around. Remember no relationship is always perfect and you can go from one relationship to another and something will go wrong in the new one as well. So if you meet that person that gives you butterflies and you know they are the one, treasure them as so. Xo Barbara Jeanne