Finding Love By keeping Your Options Wider

Everybody is looking for love but like that old song that says “looking for love in all the wrong faces”, may be true. We tend to go by looks many times leaving that person that might be a great catch on the sideline. Yes looks is very important but if you took a chance on someone that was just a good, sweet, kind person with a great personality you might have a better chance to meet the right person. You might learn that laughter and great conversation makes this plain person look dynamic. Maybe they would treat you wonderful and you could really be yourself because they are so down to earth. It’s so important to have a best friend that is your lover and that you can actually enjoy conversing with. Keep your eyes and your heart opened to someone that you may typically pass by. Leaving your options open to a wider range you just might be pleasantly surprised when you find love with someone you least expect it. Barbara Jeanne xo

How to Date & Be Successfully

    Everyone is looking for love, on dating sites, internet sites, bars and anywhere you might be able to meet. Yet so many people write me almost every day asking me to help them find a partner. There are millions of people out there but it seems two people can’t connect. So what can be going wrong? I truly think that many people have forgotten the basics of how to start a relationship. The conversation that goes back and forth should stay to what is said if you were to meet them in person. Ask about them, their life and get to know them. Do not start to talk on a sexually manner or move to the flirty talk too quickly. Take it slow and be genuine. Meet sooner than later unless you live far. Although in this situation I would step back and ask each other is one of you really going to move so you don’t waste each other’s time. The internet is the number one way of meeting people. For some reason from what I’ve seen and heard through most of my friend’s men and women have terrible stories. The people they have met all have lied about one thing or another or have a completely different personality when they meet them in person. Some of the complaint’s I have gotten is they lie about their weight, the picture was old; I’ve even heard that the picture wasn’t them. I cannot stress the fact to be honest for so many reasons. First off they will see you; second your lies will have to come out if you two go into a serious relationship. I am not saying you have to offer personal information about yourself by any means but the surface things of life should be said. What are the surface things, well…if you have children and how old they are. Keep the picture fairly updated. If you put one up from ten years ago, even five years ago you should take a current one. Also if you are in the dating market freshen yourself up. It’s time to start taking care of you. Hit the gym to shed those unwanted pounds. Be groomed, so you can be ready to be and be who they think they are going to meet. Keep your mind open towards people you might not always take notice of.  You really got to say to yourself would I date me. I also find that people who are looking put the standards very high. People’s top priority is looks, instead of finding a person that has good conversation and a lot of other qualities that are important. When a person does find someone they do like they hold on to them for dear life because this doesn’t happen too often. Even if the person stops calling they ask me what to do. You can’t do much. If it didn’t work for both of you move on. To sum it up, you may be looking for the wrong person that is why you are having such a hard time. Talk and see if there is depth to your conversation with this person or is everything vague. You can learn a lot by really listening, so take time to do so and good luck!

Timing Makes A Relationship

         When two people meet and connect there are other things that come into play. First off are both people ready mentally to enter a relationship. People think they are and all is going fine until their baggage that is still holding them down is back to haunt them. What started out to be a wonderful beginning is quickly falling apart. It can really suck when you know in your heart you have a good thing but your other half is now blinded by what  they thought was done and over, either in their mind or heart.  So can anything be done, or should we just let it go? Well here is the thing; it’s hard to find that love that you feel in your gut that is right. When you do find it you don’t want to let go and give it up so easily. You can do two things, back up a bit and don’t put all your energy into a relationship that might leave you broken hearted but before you back up tell them how you feel. If you feel that you two have something special and you feel they feel it as well, say it. It’s important to bring up memories that you two have shared and how special it was when you two first met, maybe how you met. Lastly you have to tell them it would be a shame to let go of the present for the past that didn’t work out. You cannot change what someone has in their mind. That’s why I always say build memories, it’s very important. This way when they take time and they are alone they will reason which one means more at this present time. Once they realize the other relationship is in the past they might come back and continue with you with an even better relationship being ready now. If you don’t want to wait let it go and move on. Either way if you too had something as special as you think, they will be back, but when the timing is right. Do not allow the yoyo affect. Where they come, then disappear and come and disappear. If you allow this who knows how long this could go on. Timing is everything. So that’s why it’s important to really handle people’s hearts with care. If you know you aren’t ready and probably won’t be able to pull it off, then don’t pull someone into it know you will leave them with a broken heart.

How to Get Your Love Life In Sync

So you like having sex a little more than your partner, what can you do about this? First off many men do not grab the woman tenderly, no foreplay beforehand. Men you can start off by giving your lady a kiss on the neck, a hug from behind. This is part of a woman’s foreplay. Now women on the other hand make it too obvious they do not want to fool around they roll their eyes, push him away and just saying "no". It leaves both genders feeling a bit unsure about feeling it to have sex. Men, women need foreplay both out of bed and before sex...unless you're both in for a quickie. Women, make men feel like you want them. You both win and furthermore it helps keep a more loving relationship. 

If Your Not Having Sex Like You Did...Relax It's Normal

As relationships grow comfortable as they always do, you may lose some of that passion that you can remember when you two first met. You must be thinking everyone is having hot passionate sex to begin with and that is the newness of the relationships. Although you might miss that animal attraction you may of had that is not realistic. The more you two fall into a routine making love may be put on the back burner. One may be tired and the other that wants the sex may feel rejected. Realize this is totally normal. Look at your big picture with your partner. Do you two laugh, have good conversations, this is building a base for a great future together. You don't want to disregard sex what so ever but those nights that you kiss good night and fall asleep is called normal. If you feel like it may be a little to long between each encounter than spice it up a bit. Until then relax and enjoy the laughter