What Men Want to Woman to Know

Speaking to men of all ages, one of their biggest questions was...they don't think woman really know what they want. Or understand why, girls, woman talk about looking for a serious relationship with a good man. When they do see a good man they don't reconize it. If they are not dressed as well, not as well spoken or fall under the shy catagory, they tend not to look deep enough or pass the surface to see their great guy is standing right in front of them. Men said woman tend to gravitate towards bad boys, that have an edge and show more concern about themselves then the woman. Yet the woman will choose the bad boy over the nice guy, that is willing to treat her better and put more into the relationship. They say woman will come on and start a relationship, but if the man is alittle akward or unsure of themselves, seems to be a turn off for woman. Not giving the man a chance or time to open up and may be a fun loving person. If you are always looking for a person that is perfect, you will have a hard time finding what you want in a relationship. Men go on to say that they get the date with the woman but it is over in an instant, when they feel they are not up to their standards they guy is out and the woman has already made a decision. If the man tries to ask again, it is a no go. When I was in high school, I had this situation. He was a cute guy but alittle akward, tall and skinny. He even had a little lisp. I gave him a chance and as time went on he cut his hair, dressed better and cleaned himself up and became a very handsome guy. That all the girls wanted. The person, I almost passed up, became my best friend. I had some of the best times and memories with him.We got engaged but I went off to college and I choose, the bad boy with the edge to marry. In the end, he wasn't a bad boy. He was bad for me. So ladies men are asking please give those men that you might not give a second look a chance they might end up being the man you've been looking for. Someone to make you happy and treat you well. As you should be treated. Some men do this to but thats another story! xo Barbarara Jeanne

Marriage, Then Alimony?

Two people that were once so in love at one time part. Sometime on cordial terms, but usually that is not the case. Where was once a home filled with love, it is now a home, this one time loving couple are now fighting over everything. The woman feels it should be hers. She needs a place for her and the children. The man thinks it should be his, he worked hard for it. In some cases both parties worked so they just sale and split. In any case what is fair? I am not on the either side. When I got divorced it was ten years into the marriage I wanted out, although, he was the one that may have been verbally abusive. (Another long story) Either way, I thought, we have a child, I don't want this to be nasty or drawn out. We did have a child together. We were in love at one point; I just wanted to part, period. I did not ask or take anything. I knew taking his child away was heart breaking enough and I was young, been to college, I can take care of myself. It is just how I felt. I know you woman are going to hate me for this one. I just thought he didn't take care of me the first half of my life, why should he have the responsibility now. I can understand if you invested more time of your life being married, then you were growing up and single. Or have children that the woman cannot take care of. Still should the man pay for the rest of the time for the wife? I am not saying the children; I am saying alimony for the wife! I have to say I feel it should be a certain time if she is not working to get her on her feet. Women please don’t hate me. I was in a relationship with a man that we could not start a family, buy a house, etc., because he already was paying for a family. I can't be the only woman that went through this, finally I said, you're taking care of her. I'm taking care of you. Who is taking care of me? We then parted. What’s fair to both parties? I am not the one to say what it should be. Every situation is different. I think though, both parties should remember they did get married, have children, so they loved each other at one time. Be more cordial. Don't try to hurt or break the other person. Make it a break but a smooth one. It's easier on you and the children. The children get what is going on. That is not cool. To see their parents fighting so bitterly can harm and hurt a child. Remember this divorce is not only about you and what you get. Both parties remember the children are going through a loss as well! XO BARBARA JEANNE

What Married Woman Really Want?

Our first guess would be sex, no great passionate sex. A survey came out that actually said that 83% of married woman rather have sleep. Time to themselves, to watch tv or read a book. I know time to yourself is important, when it comes to being a wife and mom leaves little time for yourself. As my mom says, and I have yet to see her be wrong, when it comes to relationships. It is a blessing to have family around you. Picture your life different...alone. So, it is nice to snuggle up in a in a cozy blaket watch a movie and doze off, by all means. That is healthy but, don't forget that although the thought is nice. It is nicer to do the same exact thing with your husband holding you. I know you probally are saying, that's never going to happen. Men are at fault as well. Whatever happened when the two of you met and the bed was the thing you saw most. Not that you just had massive amounts of sex, but you would watch tv, maybe snack in bed, wearing little to nothing. Now you have children, but after they are all tucked in, come on, you can take one hour, even half hour to watch a show and snuggle. If you two have no connection but the childen, eventually, that is all you'll have. You'll also have the want to get out and find someone that will do it. Every relationship need intimacy. So enjoy that movie, just wiith you hubby next to you. Talk, joke in between commercials. It's free and the closeness might get you in the mood for a little nookey, xo barbara jeanne

Love Songs

Did you ever realize, well, if you have made it through these decades, even as a child hearing your mom probally playing. The misic of the 70's and 80's were pretty much all love songs. the 70's had many sweet ballads and the 80's had a balance of  love, hate songs. As the decade continued, it got more into, a guy breaking a girls heart and she can't live without him. Now the songs are getting that woman are say...nah nah nah nah, ahe ahe ahe good bye! Which is good because it is saying that woman are getting stronger and we are not going to take mens crap! On the other hand, woman can't seem, well most of us, to live without a man or a significant other. So, it is saying we still need and want love.  We can not keep going with, we will f*** you men up if you mess with us. Yes, that is one approach. Or maybe we can step back and bring bacl the softer touch. Expect more out of men from the get go. They open our doors. The men romance us woman and we allow it. Without fighting everyting from, where are you at, to why didn't you call. Men, back in the good old days. Men had the respect to call their woman and men you know that would help cut out alot of the fighting. So, maybe we woman can bring it down a notch on the yelling and men can bring it up a notch on the respect level. By telling your woman where you are and what you are doing, doesn't mean you are less than a man, it actually means you are a man. We woman well love you and treat you with more kindness and be a lot happier, if you would just open up. So maybe we need to listen to some good oldies. Especially the 70's Love Songs, they have alot of romancing songs to go by. Geez, Air Supply, even look up the band Bread, and let us not forget Meat Loaf. Point being, we are using all songs to mix into all our updated songs. So artists know, there were some good tracks back in the day. So check out u tube or the informerrcials late at night. Listen and feel the difference. There was no bitterness, usually it was a man that so deperately wanted a woman. Pretty nice right! Not that we can go back in time but we can bring back romance and listening to it mighth help the mind and heart to think and fell. xo barbara jeanne

Jumping in With Two Feet

YEARS AGO PEOPLE WOULD JUMP INTO LOVE LIKE IT WAS THE BEST THING TO ADD TO THEIR LIFE, COULDN'T LIVE WITHOUT IT. SUMMER LOVE, DRIVING AROUND, GOING TO CARNIVALS, THE BEACH, WHEREVER, IT WAS JUST FUN. GROWN UP AND MORE WEARY, PEOPLE STICK THEIR PINKY TOE IN THE LOVE POOL LIKE IT WAS THEIR FIRST TIME TAKING A SWIM AROUND THE LOVE POOL. MEN, WHAT THE HECK? YOUR IN YOUR OUT, YOUR IN, YOU OUT. JUST GET IN THE DAMN POOL AND SEE WHAT FISH ARE FLOATING AROUND, AND FOR GOODNESS SAKES GET OFF OF PLENETY OF FISH & ALL THOSE OTHER SITES, STEP AWAY FROM THE COMPUTER & GET OUT. THAT GOES FOR BOTH GENDERS, STOP SITTING ON THE COMPUTER NIGHT AFTER NITE TALKING ON THESE SITES , AS IT IS YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENT. YOUR PURPOSE IS TO MEET SOMEONE. SO STOP TALKING. EITHER MAKE A DATE, MEET THEM AND IT CLICKS OR IT DOESNT, THEN MOVE ON TO THE NEXT. IT IS THE INLY WAY YOU ARE GOING TO FIND SOMONE. BY TALKING ON THE COMPUTER TO THE SAME PERSON FOR WEEKS, SOMETIMES MONTH, COME ON NOW. WHAT ARE YOU SCARED OF? SO GET ON YOUR SUIT AND DIVE INTO THE POOL OF LOVE AND MEET SOMEONE. YOU MIGHT FIND SOMEONE WORTH SWIMMING WITH! XO BARBAR JEANNE